renewing marriage vows

Surely you would only need to renew if the old ones had worn out? ;)
Do they wear out?

Personally - I wouldn't get married again or make vows again - unless they changed the promises to 'I will do my best' or ' I will try to' instead of promising things that you may for whatever reason, not be able to keep.

I can't imagine that happening, jings. The daughter who has kids isn't married in the "official" sense, though she is in the "real" sense as far as she's concerned.

We are not a family that goes in for big showy stuff.

But just supposing a daughter of mine did (a) get married have a wedding and then (b) invited me to a renewal of vows party....

Sorry... I just can't imagine such a possibility ever occurring. I can't connect any of my daughters with that kind of event. It's not within the realms of any reality of which I have experience.

To give you an idea of our kind of celebration, DD2 brought fizz when she was coming to meet nephew number two for the first time (he was six months old by then) and we drank the champagne with oven-baked ausages and shallots at home. It was lovely.

GS2 had a suck on the champagne cork . Later we dipped it in a petit filou as a spoon for him. He liked that.

My DIL's parents had a renewal of vows ceremony earlier this year. No expense spared (and I mean NO EXPENSE) it makes my blood boil me sad to think how much they spent on that one day when their own daughter and my son and their children struggle along trying to make ends meet.

I only got married in the first place because it gave us a tax rebate with which to buy our first colour telly. No such carrots these days.

Well, there will be soon. Two hundred pounds is n' t it going to be?

Not that will get you a telly these days.

I would echo Flickety and Sel's comments about white weddings, I'm appalled just how much some people choose to waste of this one day and personally I just hate hearing anyone wittering on about place settings,dresses, flowers and all that drivel. These days overblown stag/hen dos seem to be almost as important as the actual day. One of my sons went to a stag do recently, just overnight, but the cost of the hotel and activities were quite considerable and I know some expect a week-end of even a week abroad somewhere.

Both my weddings were quiet affairs. Have been happily married to husband number two for 24 years, in spite of older son being 27! can't envisage ever wanting to renew vows, seems kind of pointless to me, we haven't broken them YET! Hope neither of my boys want to get married in an ostentatious way, I'm afraid I wouldn't be prepared to waste any money on a wedding, they have been told our money would only go to help them with bricks and mortar.

I agree as well with 'Flickety and Sels comments.
I sang in the church choir from age 15 -22 and had a front row view of many weddings all of them in white. I became convinced that these white dresses were something for the very young and as I got married in my late twenties I never considered it. It seemed childish to me and so we just dressed in something really smart, I had a dress, matching coat and a hat.
As my husband was German and alone in the Uk for the wedding he didn't want a bestman so we did without that as well! My friend was a witness.
It was a lovely wedding and a very happy day. I will not be celebrating it after 50 years because you can't repeat anything like that.
Anyhow that church is no longer a church and the vicar who so disapproved of my marriage (to a German) and who is on a photo with a grim expression on his face, would be surprised to realise that our union has out lived his precious church.

For a cheap wedding go to China. Go to an office, sign a bit of paper, have a photo taken (no smiling allowed) and it's done. No guests and cost minimal.

A few weeks, months, years later when you can afford it have a party and receive wedding presents (red envelopes with money in).
Go to a wedding shop, hire a dirty well worn wedding dress (and Grooms outfit) to be worn over your jeans and trainers and have photos taken somewhere 'scenic'.

DD and SiL did the first bit and then 10 months later came here for a Renewal of Vows ceremony for everyone to enjoy. We are going to a similar do in Ireland just after Christmas.

For our 40th last year we didn't have a party or renewal of vows ceremony. We went to a small house in the Mourne mountains for a few days peace and quiet, surrounded by 4 beautiful bouquets of red roses from each of our 4 children. We remembered the Big Day and thought about all those who had been there but are no longer with us. And also about all those we had gained in the family since then: 4 wonderful children, their spouses and 5 amazing grandchildren. It was a lovely personal way to celebrate - and cost nothing!

My brother and SIL renewed their vows at 25 years - he ran off with her cousin a few years later.....

my personal view is that it a bit showy, but am planning a party for our 25 years... I like silver

Looking forward to gold in a couple of years' time (dv). Tiny wedding, in laws didn't come, everyone said it wouldn't last. Any vows we made still hold true. And we know how lucky we are.

unless you are in China anyway it presumably costs to get there! You can get married in a Registry office here for under £100.

We renewed are vows on our 25th and it was a lovely day. All our grandchildren were there and we went back to the church where we were married. It doesn't have to be showy just personal to you and your family. It was a great family celebration.