True, I am sorry Soontobe. I have reported the post from Stansgran however and I have asked her in a private message to leave me alone from now on as I think she has a very warped sense of the world and has no understanding of what a person can go through in their life if she thinks that a 17 year old should be "over" something deeply affecting from his childhood. (By the way, he is 17, still a child, legally). Maybe he should "pull himself together" eh? Maybe he shouldn't have feelings? Maybe he should be fed to the lions because he made one mistake???? Gosh, stansgran you must be squeaky clean!
The minority spoil these websites for the majority in my opinion because acid comments like that (he is an evil spirit, poisonous, loathsome, a user and he needs replacing - by Stansgran!) stop others from posting their problems and they go on being upset and confused in private when they could genuinely turn to others who are compassionate to help. I pity you, Stansgran because with such barbed comments you must have been hurt in life to make you turn out so bitter like this against someone who you don't even know. Just keep away from me in future as you will get no reaction from me as you really are not worth it.
Thank you to everyone else who has helped me and my son. I am to set up counselling for us both as I think this would help us both understand each other better as we move into his adult years and my Autumn years. He is finding his way better with college now and he is going to his first counselling session this week. Like I said, we all make mistakes, the thing is to learn from them and to not make them again. Time will tell but he is determined to get his problems sorted and then he can begin his adult life with a much clearer mind and hopefully happier, which we all want for our children, don't we?