I am with radicalnan. I cannot believe the way some people tolerate adult children's dreadful, selfish behaviour. It's difficult to cause a scene, and we love our offspring but we do them no favours in allowing them to trample on our feelings and good nature.
I would be inclined to point out how she was rude and off hand. It may help her. I'd also be inclined to say the next meeting is off if she intends to treat you in such a manner again.
I think it's an indication of her thick skin that she wants you to provide her with examples of her thoughtless and rude behaviour. Hopefully in time she'll appreciate consideration and kindness towards her mother might be the appropriate way forward.
It may cause a rift but I do feel you have to make a stand, to teach her a lesson if nothing else.
Good luck. I hate bad feeling but I'll never be a doormat or allow others to treat me in less than a fair manner. She is a grown up. She needs to see the light.
Being moved along by someone who "wants your place".
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