The problem with lurking is that no one knows you’re there. If you see the same old names over and over it’s because they are the same people who are jumping in and having their say. And on most threads people post their opinions re the OP rather than responding to individual posts so it’s fairly rare to get an actual response to your own post if you’ve just responded to, not started, a thread. Killing a thread is more about joining the conversation too late than putting people off because you’ve entered the room. It’s rarely personal, just bad timing.
I used to join in the contentious threads but didn’t like the heated discussions. Mistakenly, I took those personally and soon learned best to steer clear. Recently I’ve started a lot of theeads asking for domestic advice and these lovely people are always very keen and helpful with tips and ideas and aive learned a lot (who knew white vinegar was so useful?). Some threads never really get going - the trick seems to be to ask something that a lot of people like to give their opinion on but it’s a mystery what that might be. I never follow other people and only ‘chat’ with them. I think you will have to try again and jump right in and give up the lurking. Good luck.
The majority of Israeli Jews do not want to occupy Gaza.
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