Gransnet makes me feel lonely

Loopyloo also has a point!

I think jamsidedown is a great name as that’s what always happens please don’t read more into that I love bluebells but I don’t nod my head all the time ?

I think a ‘like’ button would be such an improvement as you may not always want to comment but that would just be a simple encouragement ( you don’t need a ‘not like’ button)

I fully understand how you feel, I am the same. I have been on here for 2or 3 years now and still feel an outsider. I know I should post more, but have that tendency to think no one will be interested in what I have to say. Must try harder

Hi Jamsidedown great GN name.
My first post in 2015 was on the politics thread.
Yikes! I immediately had a nasty remark made to me personally.
Had it not been for another (regular) poster leaping to my defence it would probably have been my first and last GN post.
All that is in the past I love GN.

I have had so much useful advice on the health site.
The information given on the travel site re places to visit whilst holiday has been great, better than any travel brochure.

I look on GN as a magazine.
The active threads as the index.
Then read what in think will be of interest to me.
GN is a virtual world but amazingly it has some very supportive and caring virtual members

JAM You have opened a very interesting thread.
So now onwards and upwards

I think I remember a thread not too long ago about feeling invisible on threads!

It wasn't about nobody replying though. It was about someone posting some information and then later someone else would also post that information, only then to be thanked by others for it!

It's funny how we can be sensitive to these things!

PS I love your name too jam

Hello and welcome Jam. See, your post has had lots of replies, so no, you are not invisible. I also kill a thread stone dead at times, but that may just be timing

Keep posting, jamsidedown. Other posters have suggested some threads to try to get going with. I like the good morning thread, chat, ask a gran, AIBU, in particular, and dabble in others as the mood takes me. I hope the replies so far are encouraging you to keep going. ??

monica
My chemistry teacher once wrote on my homework
'A good succinct account.'
I was only 11 and had to look the word up in the dictionary.

I was always outside the 'in group', but never actually wanted to be part of it
Yes - rather like Groucho Marx

Great thread. Well done Jam. It certainly makes you stop and think. I am quite recent but have found I love dropping in and out of what interests me in this site. I think it can offer fantastic support too. Let's try to remember to respect, include and share together in a way our parents never could. How isolating life must have been for so many in the past.

Hi again, so glad my post has opened up a discussion- sorry my username seems gloomy - it was meant to be lighthearted - and I don’t think I can change it anyway! I agree with BlueBell that a “like” button would be a great idea, so often I read posts but others have already commented and things have moved on so I don’t bother to contribute.

I wonder how many others, like me, type out a carefully considered post, send it then realise it's right at the bottom of the page (the graveyard slot) and the conversation will move gaily on without your post being noticed.

It's even more infuriating when the next people to comment write exactly the same stuff.

All part and parcel of forum life. I closed about three threads when I first joined probably because I changed my username and just charged back in where I left off without explaining.

They must of thought, Who the heck's that??

Because I have 100 posts on my page to read I never think of lower page changes so never considered I may have just posted at the end of a page Maybe that why like just mentioned I make a comment, two minutes later someone makes the same comment and gets named as the originator which makes it seems like the readers have bypassed you umm you live and learn
Interesting ! How many posts does the average person have on their page.

Groucho Marx a good comparison. If it wasn't for the electrolysis I would have the moustache to go with it.

Don't worry about your name jam I think it's quirky and memorable, but it's interesting how some names apparently give off a negative vibe to some posters. Mine could be if you are a very busy person, but I use it because I was so fed up on retirement after a demanding job, to be asked constantly if I would fill my time with "worthwhile" activities. "Daytime TV" was my tongue in cheek reply. Perhaps I should change it as am not that lazy, but am to lazy to.

I have my 'pages' set so there aren't any!! A thread just on and on and on!!! I bookmark so I know where I stopped reading the last time. I get very confused when someone mentions a post at (eg) the bottom of page 3.

I don't know why we need to have 'pages' really.

I totally agree with you jamsidedown. I've been on here for years and have always felt like an outsider. I largely get ignored. I put it down to being very old and boring. At first it upset me dreadfully but I've got used to it now and just plod on regardless. I really enjoy GN in spite of it.

I have my 'pages' set so there aren't any!! A thread just on and on and on!!!
Unfortunately, unless you're one of the older members on GN, you can't do this any more. I queried this with GNHQ quite a while ago - every time I hit the 'customise' button and tried to set number of posts per page to 1000, it always defaulted back to 100. Turns out they stopped allowing it - can't remember why now, some technical problem or other. So some people have 25 per page, others, like me, have 100 per page, and therefore references to 'bottom of the page' are confusing and inaccurate. Unless, of course, you use the mobile site and then it's one continuous list of posts. I agree with you kitty, I don't know why we need to have pages either.

I also agree henetha andjam I think I am generally ignore as my posts tend to be short and to the point.

I didn’t know you could post anywhere but at the end of the thread! I know sometimes several get published around the same time as me but I just thought that was just timing.

Henetha, I've seen you post a lot and would think that I have replied to you (or to your post if not you by name).

We have no way of knowing how old you are (unless you've said and everyone has spotted it and remembered) but I am sure lots of us have felt old and boring at one time or another. I usually do when talking to our teenage step grandsons.

I am quite puzzled by this thread and surprised how many people are so analytical of the response to their every post and are affected by it.

I have never even thought about this subject until this thread. Like everyone else, some of my posts get no response, some get criticised in tones from mild to, as angry as anyone on GN ever gets. A lot get ignored, whether they are at the bottom of the page or not and quite often what I say is repeated by someone else further down the thread. But surely that is just part of normal life, online and off.

Apart from the OP, I immediately recognised the name of everyone who has posted on this thread and if I have, so will quite a lot of other GN members, so you cannot be that invisible.

I wonder if it reactions to GN are more tied in with our perceptions of ourselves than the actualities of what is happening on GN

Welcome to GN jamsidedown . I spend most days alone at work and don’t know what I would do without Gransnet for company. I don’t really have friends in the real world but can count many of the lovely Gransnet members as my “virtual friends” (and have met a few in real life now too), having shared sadness and happiness with them over the years.
Don’t be afraid to post on anything you fancy, we are all different and I’m sure you will always find someone around to chat with.

Surely we just read posts, tut or nod sagely and move on, after throwing in our own twopennorth occasionally if the spirit moves us. We've really no way at all of knowing how many people have actually read our posts, so how would you even know if you were being ignored? Unless I'd asked a particular question, I wouldn't expect a reply, and if I'm on the Politics thread, I usually heave a sigh of relief if I manage to make a point and escape without a mauling. If you start a new thread and nobody posts, it could just be that you've started it at a quiet time of day. I only tend to look at threads that have been posted on in the last hour, so probably miss a lot.

mollie, you can only post at the end of the thread. What folk are saying is that sometimes the end of the thread turns out to be the last post on the visible page, so that the comment after yours appears at the top of the next page and yours can be overlooked. Sorry, I know that explanation is as clear as mud, but I hope you get the gist!