AIBU to feel a little bit hurt?

He just isn’t interested in what OP does when he’s away.

Too right. He has not even asked since he got back.

My DH wouldn't think to ask me what I was doing, in a similar situation. He wouldn't mind me telling him about it, tho.
Have you tried telling him how your weekend was, Cabbie21? Or asking how his weekend went?

I normally chat away about my doings but decided to wait this time until he asked, except he hasn’t. Ha ha.

Soda pop, not diagnosed with Autism at all, I just thought the lack of interest unusual, and typical of Aspergers. Cabbie has said she has thought about that too and even read up about it, and although there are a few similarities, she thinks he’s just ‘being a man.’ Fair enough, but I still think it unkind and thoughtless to arrange to go to see his daughter without consulting her about the weekend and what she might do in his absence, and what’s more, shown no interest in Cabbie’s weekend when he returned.

It is just the way he is. In many ways he is very thoughtful and caring.

Are you trying to wind Cabbie up, Maddyone?
What makes you think you're being helpful by rubbing salt into the wound by saying her DH is unkind and thoughtless??
Cabbie has already discounted your suggestion of Asperger's.

Sorry crossed posts Cabbie

I enjoy every moment my husband goes out of the house. Mostly he never tells me where he is going and I don't tell him where I am either. Sometimes we discuss our day over dinner, sometimes not. I'm rather a loner and so is he. Neither of us are emotionally dependant on the other. We made 3 lovely sons together and now have a darling granddaughter. We each have mobile phones so if anything happens while we are out, we can be contacted. Even when we both sit in the garden we are often not in the same space, lol!! I am so glad I do not have a possessive, jealous man who does not trust me and who would interrogate me on my every move. I would suffocate in any relationship that required more input from me than I currently give.

Fair enough, Maud Lilian. To some extent we are partly the same.

I need to know he loves me but please give me my own space- plenty of it! He feels the same. Seems we aren't that unusual. Good to know.

Just thought I would update. Last week DH went on his usual visit to his daughter. I had already got a trip booked with my daughter and the dates happened to overlap, so no issues this time, though it was not planned that way.
When we were back home, apart from comparing notes on the weather, he told me nothing about his visit, as usual. This time without being asked, I prattled on about all that I had done, the places I had visited and so on, but he still did not reciprocate. It is just the way he is.

Are you sure he was visiting his daughter?

Yes

Poor bugger he s now not only having rampant incestuous sex, but he s got Aspergers too I hope to goodness he doesn’t read Gransnet this is really laughable

The man changed his long term arrangement of which he warned the poster 10 days before but she’s in a niggle because he didn’t ASK her what she intended doing and that’s really all there is to it

Thankfully Cabbie had a lovely weekend I hope her husband asked her all about it and she’s happy he’s home
(maybe look at why you never visit the step daughter and why he doesnt talk about her to you)

(Private.)

Maybe that was rude. If so, I apologise.
It is a long story. Stepdaughter has long term mental health issues. He goes to support her, but doesn’t want to re- live it all when he gets home. I understand that.

I just want to put an end to speculation. Thank you for your understanding.

That being the case, why post as you did - "I prattled on about all that I had done, the places I had visited and so on, but he still did not reciprocate."?
Naturally he's not going to talk about his visit.