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Holiday - own room

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SisterAct Fri 31-May-19 13:59:28

Am I being unreasonable. A friend has asked me to go away with her abroad or in England. I said I would be interested but would want my own room.

She got very frosty and said the point of sharing was it was cheaper and I was being selfish.

SisterAct Fri 31-May-19 18:35:55

Thank you for your advice. Thanks for the tip Syncro

Now a lover !! Mmm😅

EllanVannin Fri 31-May-19 18:45:25

My dear friend and myself must have been unique ! We shared accommodation wherever we went both home and abroad and we wouldn't have had it any other way. In fact the thought of separate rooms never entered our heads. We'd been friends since 1960 up until her death 18 months ago.
We both had the same interests and were always rearing to go and explore our surrounds after breakfast------which she made if we went self-catering. A cuppa first thing which she always did too. A friend in a million who I'll never see her like again and I miss her so much.

Every holiday we had was full of laughter and one time when in Great Yarmouth laughing at the postcards outside the shop, the assistant came out and asked us jokingly if we could stay outside all day, laughing, as we'd started the customers off who were inside the shop and it was good for business.

petra Fri 31-May-19 19:15:18

3 of us go to Barcelona every year. That's me, my daughter and my friend. We have the same room with 3 beds every time. We love socialising in the room and getting ready to go out. When we come back after an evening out we carry on socialising in our room 🥂

crazyH Fri 31-May-19 19:23:50

Ellan, Your post reminded me of my dear friend, who I lost 2 years ago. If ever there was an angel on earth, it was her. We had holidays together. In our case, I made the breakfast - but I didn't mind. She wasn't a well person. I still miss her.

goldmist Fri 31-May-19 19:28:33

I went on holiday a few years ago with 2 friends. We had 3 separate cabins on our cruise & 3 separate rooms in the hotel.I'm an early riser, one friend is a night owl, one needed to pop out for a cigarette. If we had shared rooms, we wouldn't have stayed friends, & the extra for the rooms was minimal & worth every penny

leyla Fri 31-May-19 19:38:02

I only share with my DH and my DD. My days of sharing a room with anyone else are long gone. I find it annoying when people try to persuade me to share.

mumofmadboys Fri 31-May-19 19:46:39

I don't mind sharing with friends at all. I just don't see it as a problem

Cabbie21 Fri 31-May-19 19:52:15

I have only ever shared with friends on choir trips. We spend so little time in our room that it isn’t a problem. A bit of a rush in the morning to get through the bathroom, but part of the fun. On a more leisurely trip I would want my own space and privacy. My daughter shared with me once and vowed never again as I snore.

Tangerine Fri 31-May-19 22:24:20

You're not unreasonable. I have shared in the past and it's always been fine but I can understand that not everyone feels the same way.

FarNorth Fri 31-May-19 22:37:47

Clearly, your friend has looked at prices for single and double rooms, and has thought she'd save money by getting someone to share.
I don't recommend going with her at all.

Charlie888 Sat 01-Jun-19 08:15:48

I have been away with friends mostly shared no problems but had the occasionally selfish one. These were the ones that cost was an issue. 🤔 made me feel I was there to reduce costs.

Blinko Sat 01-Jun-19 08:44:41

I shared with a friend on a river cruise in April and I'm going with another friend, sharing, to a flower show in July. I don't see a problem... So far, anyway.

Weeeme Sat 01-Jun-19 09:10:32

No way. I’m a poor sleeper and like the ability to get up, do some yoga, make some tea, read etc....I’d be a nightmare roomie!

NotSpaghetti Sat 01-Jun-19 09:11:57

I wouldn't want to share. Just say you want your own room but would otherwise love to go. DON'T offer excuses (eg snoring) as she'll say she doesn't mind. Just say it's how you feel.
As others have said, she obviously doesn't want to pay the one-person-premium.
If you want to go and have enough "spare" cash you might even offer to pay the extra. She probably won't take you up on that but will see you are serious.

JulieMM Sat 01-Jun-19 09:13:48

Show her all these responses! smile

adaunas Sat 01-Jun-19 09:14:34

I usually only share with family, but I shared a cabin with a friend from Oz on an ocean cruise so we could afford a better cabin. It worked fine for us. I have a more local friend who prefers her own room, so that’s what we do.
Go with how you feel.

polnan Sat 01-Jun-19 09:16:37

wow! I love reading your stories here, what is happening in your lives... I mean that as a compliment... I love the differences,, I am a bit of a loner,, I have been on holiday with gf before, but for the life of me I can`t remember if we shared or not... I think not, else I would remember.

I only have one close gf here, I would share with... other than a very close friend I would not be at all comfortable.

Applegran Sat 01-Jun-19 09:18:51

Have your own room (I do not enjoy sharing with even very good friends) and explain that you are going with your friend for the pleasure of sharing the holiday with her, while preferring your own room at night. You are being reasonable!

ditzyme Sat 01-Jun-19 09:20:21

If sharing a room is a definite no-no for you, then you have to politely tell her that you either have your own space or you won't go away with her, but thanks for the offer!

sluttygran Sat 01-Jun-19 09:21:14

I don’t like sharing, especially the bathroom.
If I go away for a weekend with my gentleman friend we share a room, and I hate it.
I like the companionship, but can’t relax at all. I’m reluctant to disturb him with my frequent toilet trips, tea-making, reading, fidgeting, and worst of all, worried that I might let out a rude noise!
I know he would just double up with laughter and join in - men are like that - but it horrifies me.
I like to be alone so that I can phart in peace and comfort!

Juliet27 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:23:08

Hmm. Has she asked you just to make a trip for her cheaper?

janeainsworth Sat 01-Jun-19 09:28:11

sluttygran grin
This might amuse you.
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SeaWatcher Sat 01-Jun-19 09:37:19

I recently shared a room with a friend on a two night trip but, although we get on very well, I found it stressful : wanting to go to the loo when she was in the bathroom/ asleep, wanting to read when she wanted to sleep and vice versa. We were due to share a room on another two night trip with a group of friends, but in the end I pulled out (declaring illness), although this meant I had to lose the money I'd paid for the trip. I knew sharing a room would detract too much from the enjoyment of the trip.

Hm999 Sat 01-Jun-19 09:41:01

It's not that easy to find a hotel room with twin beds these days, so would this mean sharing a bed? (Plenty of places to rent have 2 bedrooms with the kids' room having little twin beds) My advice is apologise, take other's advice saying you snore, read late, get up to the loo in the night or whatever, look at Airbnb. I went for a very cheap holiday last year with them, and got 2 bedrooms, a large lounge-kitchen and a balcony all to myself.

henetha Sat 01-Jun-19 09:41:03

I'd rather not go on holiday than have to share with anyone.
The very thought makes me cringe!