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I'm disappointed

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yogagran Tue 20-Aug-19 13:33:03

I had been planning a visit to see my DS in Canada at the beginning of October. I was going to spend the weekend with him and his family (both parents work & kids at school so weekend is the best time). All flights booked several weeks ago and now I get a WhatsApp from him saying that, on checking the diary, they realise that they have a Halloween weekend campsite booked for that weekend, trick & treating, pumpkin carving etc. Plus they have booked a pitch for their trailer near some friends that are also going. "How you you feel about that" he asks.
I'm really disappointed as I was hoping to spend time with them and halloween is really not my thing, neither is spending the weekend in a caravan.
My plan was that I would spend the weekend with DS then go on to see my brother on the Sunday evening and stay with them for three days then home again. My previous trips to Canada have always been for less than a week as that works best for me. Three days with my DS and three days with my brother.
My question is what would you do?

Nanny41 Thu 22-Aug-19 13:43:35

As others have said book in to a cabin on site, or a nearby Hotel,I wouldnt like the caravan idea either.I was in the US at Halloween when my Daughter lived there I enjoyed seeing all the houses decorated, and little children knocking on the door accompanied by a parent.
You may enjoy Haloween more than you think, give it a try.I think the time you are in Canada seems very short for the lenght of journey, but you are used to it,so I hope you enjoy the time spent with your family.

4allweknow Thu 22-Aug-19 14:00:13

Check exactly when DS would be available. Cancel flights then rebook. You will be down financially but up on happiness not dealing with the Halloween and camping.

Diane227 Thu 22-Aug-19 14:06:14

Playing devils advocate.
Do you think your son might prefer you to change your plans and go another time?
Unless you have a fantastic relationship with your son and DIL , wont it be intrusive for them and uncomfortable for you ? to share a caravan.
I cant help thinking that you are making all the effort here, going all the way to Canada which they have obviously known about for some time. Its not like its just down the road.
I think its a bit unreasonable of them.
Its only Halloween.

Scribbles Thu 22-Aug-19 14:18:58

Lucy2: it wasn't me who suggested Halloween might go on for weeks. That was the OP.
I was astounded to read it!

Theoddbird Thu 22-Aug-19 14:26:27

You might just enjoy it. Give it a go. I would. Don't forget to pack a witch costume. Trick or treating with grandchildren is so much fun x

love0c Thu 22-Aug-19 14:51:50

I think on this occasion go with the flow. I think if you let your son know you are not too keen it will cause bad feeling regardless of the fact he has asked how you feel. You will enjoy seeing your grandchildren having fun doing halloween stuff. This is something you haven't done before including seeing your grandchildren enjoy halloween. Children get bored very easily so you may well find they are in a 'good mood' for the whole of the time. Not a bad thing!!

Missiseff Thu 22-Aug-19 15:03:44

I'd do anything to be able to see my Son, so would gladly do anything just to be with him.
Sometimes the dread of something turns out to be better than you thought it would be.

Specky Thu 22-Aug-19 15:25:25

I agree with everyone who says to go with the flow and give it your all! You might surprise yourself and have a great time but if you don't enjoy it then at least the family will get the idea and hopefully suggest a visit next time that's more everyone's cup of tea. Start working on your outfit now and maybe plan a few tricks of your own to get your own back!!! I hope you have a great time.. X

Sara65 Thu 22-Aug-19 15:29:43

You are right missiseff, how often do we spend weeks dreading something, and it doesn’t turn out so bad, I’m sure your family will be happy to have you there

Bugbabe2019 Fri 23-Aug-19 10:19:50

I’m sure it’ll be fun!
Just go along with it you might surprise yourself!