Am I being childish to be hurt by this?

They are being unreasonable all round. Haven’t they watched the news asking people to stay away from holiday acc because in a lot of these areas they don’t have the capacity in the rural hospitals to deal with their own never mind visitors

No, you are not being childish to feel hurt.
Your daughter and family are unreasonable on so many grounds. Booking unsuitable accommodation, being dishonest, leaving you out, and especially, going ahead with travel plans when we are meant to stay at home.
So you are the better person. Turn this on its head and be glad you stayed at home.

Happy birthday aries63 How inconsiderate your family have been. They’ve treated themselves to something that they fancy, for your birthday, without thinking about whether it’s something suitable and appropriate for you. I think you’ve every right to be upset and to expect them to have planned an accessible treat that you’d have enjoyed.

It has to be said that your family do seem to be very ignorant. They shouldn’t have carried on with their sneaky plans this weekend because everyone is supposed to be avoiding unnecessary travel.

I’m sorry they’ve behaved so badly, they are suffering from a lack of empathy and imagination. Tell them how you feel. Say you couldn’t understand why they wouldn’t tell you that they were still going away. You’re not a child, you don’t need your family around on your birthday, but it’s plain mean for them to not tell you in advance or ask you how you would like to celebrate even if not on the day.

You are 70, you should be isolating. They know this. Please don't be hurt, so much stress and worry about that people are struggling to communicate well x

There is a travel ban on people going on holiday in UK. Your family are all being very irresponsible. They should cancel.

I’m wondering why you agreed to go in the first place.

It sounds as if the whole trip would have been stressful anyway.

Strange that they didn’t inform you that they were still going.

Greciangirl
Did you not read the original post?

In a word...yes.

Hetty that is not a nice comment.
No one should be getting together at the minute.
If I was answering this at a normal time I would say yes they are selfish. It's a special birthday and they should have planned to spend it with you. But as Pikachu said it won't do you any good to feel bad about it. You are not alone. Children are often thoughtless. Don't expect too much and you won't be disappointed.

Happy birthday. I can't get my head around young ones now, mine either

I'm amazed that they booked a cottage such as you've described. They should have booked one that had a downstairs bedroom and bathroom for you or taken you to an hotel with lifts.

It's funny how people book a "supposed" treat for the whole family expecting their children and grandchildren to like the same thing. The in laws of a young friend booked a villa in Florida last year for themselves and their childrens' families. The villa had one of those pools that's covered over with some sort of frame, little garden to speak of and the children were toddlers and babies. Not much fun on a flight to Florida I would have thought.

Many happy returns of the day aries! ???

Happy 70th Aries. I’m so sorry you are in such a lot of pain.

Aries, I agree with Granny Laine, they should have organised something you could cope with. The trouble is they don’t realise how much you long to see them and spend time time with them. But they did ask and a grandson came, which is lovely. Try not to hang to the hurt, difficult sometimes, and I’m sorry for you’re pain. I hope you have a hobby that you enjoy.

All the holiday companies round here have closed for the duration, so even if somebody turns up they can’t get the key. Those already in occupation have been told to go home. Cleaners have been told to down tools.

Good luck anybody going on a self catering holiday. There will be tears before bedtime. In the meantime Aries, happy birthday.