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Ignorant or acceptable?

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JackK Mon 28-Mar-22 15:34:40

Every Saturday is hell. My neighbours come home from wherever, and all hell breaks loose. They both have loud voices anyway, but after a few beers the volume increases dramatically. The noise goes on until the early hours which is then followed by gruesome sex noise that continues for at least an hour. This week, the noise (punctuated by SN at 3am) continued until I left for work at 6.30am. At around 3.30 I shouted "Shut the fuck up", and he shouted something back and banged the wall.
I got his number off a mutual friend and sent him this text on Sunday afternoon. I've had no reply ... is that him being rude, or me expecting too much?

Kamj Wed 30-Mar-22 08:07:40

Couldnt you have a word with your mutual friend? If they gave the number so freely they may have a chat with them too?

Purplepoppies Wed 30-Mar-22 08:27:02

I'd give them a dose of Baby Shark.... (the most annoying kids song ever)
Or shout a score at the end like strictly?
I hope that message has worked though.
After calling the police to yet another violent argument from my neighbours they seem (?) to have stopped ?

timetogo2016 Wed 30-Mar-22 10:32:42

We have neighbours like that,except for the rumpy pumpy noise,which thankfully i haven`t heard.
It`s got to the stage it`s become entertaining as we can hear every word they say and it`s the same old s..t just a different day.
I wouldn`t hold your breath for a reply,but it may have sunken in a little.

tickingbird Wed 30-Mar-22 10:50:24

I believe there should be far more robust procedures in place to deal with troublesome neighbours. There have been murders in the past caused by nuisance neighbours not being dealt with and there’s a dreadful case being heard at present where someone made life hell for several households over a period of years and finally killed one poor man and seriously injured two others. It’s something that should be taken seriously by the authorities.

MagicWriter2016 Wed 30-Mar-22 10:54:02

#DiamondLily, your husband shouldn’t be snoring if he uses a CPAP machine. My hubbies snoring stopped completely once he got his machine. He maybe needs to get it checked out!

JackK Wed 30-Mar-22 11:38:10

Sadly, it's not just the SN. It's their raised voices and sporadic music that really riles me. The SN was the last straw last Saturday - and that's what made me shout. I moved my bed from the party wall a couple of years ago (the noise has been going on for about 10 years, but the last year it has become unbearable because of my work shifts). I also placed wardrobes along the party wall to deaden the noise. No joy.
No point in moving to the spare room as that is over their kitchen and garden ... and their usual Saturday night pattern is that they wander from bedroom to downstairs to garden back to the bedroom ?

JackK Wed 30-Mar-22 11:39:56

The mutual friend is my son, who (understandably) doesn't want to get involved, as the neighbour has a 'reputation', if you understand my drift!

Vintagejazz Wed 30-Mar-22 12:07:29

tickingbird

I believe there should be far more robust procedures in place to deal with troublesome neighbours. There have been murders in the past caused by nuisance neighbours not being dealt with and there’s a dreadful case being heard at present where someone made life hell for several households over a period of years and finally killed one poor man and seriously injured two others. It’s something that should be taken seriously by the authorities.

I totally agree. It seems to be virtually impossible to do anything about anti social neighbours nowadays. I know you can't have people being taken to court for frivolous or malicious reasons. But the pendulum has swung the other way and rude, loud, loutish and selfish neighbours seem to be able to act with impunity.

Dickens Wed 30-Mar-22 18:05:49

I totally agree. It seems to be virtually impossible to do anything about anti social neighbours nowadays. I know you can't have people being taken to court for frivolous or malicious reasons. But the pendulum has swung the other way and rude, loud, loutish and selfish neighbours seem to be able to act with impunity.

Dealing with such individuals costs time and money. The powers that be are unwilling to spend that time or that money.

... and they are largely unaffected personally by such behaviour, so probably understand little of its effects, nor care that much.

StoneofDestiny Mon 25-Apr-22 16:13:56

It's too nice. I'd tell them to keep the noise down to the confines of their property! However - if they are that inconsiderate, it's unlikely that they will.

Goldbeater1 Mon 25-Apr-22 19:39:42

Sago

Do not start a feud by playing loud music etc.
This will antagonise them.
I would suggest going to see them with a small but thoughtful gift and explain that this is causing you grief.
Remember that by law you have to notify prospective buyers of any property of neighbourly disputes.
If you have to sell you could ruin your chances.

I agree about refraining from playing loud music because it might trigger aggression? But the idea of taking them a small but thoughtful gift makes my skin crawl.

Caleo Mon 25-Apr-22 23:56:17

Could you possibly set up your bed in a room that is not next to the party wall? If it was me, I'd rather sleep in the kitchen than suffer from neighbour's noise.

Caleo Mon 25-Apr-22 23:58:25

Sorry! I just read your follow-up message about how no room is safe from their noise.

TeresaLambert Thu 16-Jun-22 03:25:01

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FannyCornforth Thu 16-Jun-22 08:28:09

Reported the above