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My very good friend of over 40 years is now suffering from bad health and becoming increasingly housebound. Her and her husband never had children - she always said it was to spite her MIL who constantly asked. Both her and her husband came from large families and she has numerous nieces and nephews but also she has 12 godchildren,!! Including my own daughter.
She was recently saying to me how disappointed she is in her godchildren how they rarely visit or contact her and how she expected these people to look after her now she is getting old.
Most of them have families, elderly parents, stressful jobs and lives. She said to me that she is going to tell them they will be taken out of her will unless they step up to the mark!
I was horrified and will feel very upset if she says anything to my daughter. My daughter is absolutely not expecting anything from her in her will, she has always thanked her for any gifts she gave her and is often invited to family events and celebrations. But my daughter nor myself have ever thought about a caring role.
I will fall out with her if she says anything to my daughter who is at the moment grieving for her Dad (my husband) who died recently aswell as coping with a new job and a 3 year old.
I really don’t know what to say to her.
I regret being pressured into having my 2DS baptised in Catholic church as neither of us were or are religious in a churchy way! My ds has 3 darlings and none have been christened even, so what? I think it's a form of insurance policy just in case there IS something after life but the thought that unless you've paid your dues (names not on the list!) That you can't come in!! It's nonsense as far as I'm concerned, your friend has a somewhat old fashioned idea of what children are, they're not produced purely to wet nurse the old when they're at the tail end of life!! She sounds bit selfish and maybe it's a good job she had no kids, wouldn't like to think how she'd have brought them up! No guilt or duty for god children, I think they're there in case parents taken, then someone trusted can look after children, but sadly child services take over and sometimes even grand parents are not allowed to bring up their own!! I'd be telling her to can it! Nobody likes a bitter old moaner!