DIL insults our heritage

Best just to ignore her, harder done than said I know. I have lived all my life being laughed at for my accent which differs from one half of the county to the other. If it gets too bad I usually answer in a tired voice yes I am a Marra but I was taught my manners, so I'm not going to ask you as yours make it blatantly obvious.

I live in Somerset. It is a lovely place but NOT upper class (mostly)
Sing the Wurzels combine harvester, or cider in the jar next time:-))

You paint a picture of someone who is both unhappy and perhaps a little unwell. No excuse, I know but......

OH grew up in very leafy Surrey, and all his family are there. When we moved to the West, then the East Midlands- his family used to poke fun, and say we should go and visit them, as there was no point for them to go up to such awful places!

Ah well, we laughed it off, and thew were amazed when they did eventually visit!

All good advice given . I moved from the black country to the north west of England 4 years ago and have never know such wonderful people. I don't consider the black country as home here is my home . I have never been so happy. I was welcomed with open arms. Never had such caring neighbours and have made more friends than I have ever had. Friends like my craft group that honestly care about eachother and we help eachother out . I have my daughter living 10 mins away with her family . Unfortunately I am estranged from my son and his family who live 40 mins away his choice not mine.

I have never had such good healthcare . I am 65 and found out in 2020 and last year 2 things I was born with and finally getting treatment I should have had for years.

The north west has given me answers and a new life. Will never move.

Your son maybe a bit scared of her himself, and probably doesn't want to say anything to her . I would play her at her own game , next time she says something about your heritage, go back with something about hers . She'll soon get the message

One wonders why she married your son given her views on his
heritage

Call her out in the moment. Speak up!

Ive had people make disparaging remarks because I was born in Liverpool. When I was younger I still had a local accent (although not a strong one) and Ive had people mock this.

The implication was that Liverpool people are stupid and dishonest, as well as lower class and devoted to spending all their money on fake nails, hair extensions and "boob" jobs. Ive also heard Liverpool described as a dirty s***hole. In fact it has many fine historic buildings and a wonderful vibe. Liverpool people have a very individual sense of humour and its one city where if you fell down in the street or began crying someone would quickly stop and offer help.

My accent has disappeared over the years and I learned so speak RP while I was at uni otherwise my students would not have understood me. I love to watch the expression on the face of a detractor when I inform them that I am from Liverpool and have the highest academic qualifications its possible to get.

Norah

Ignore her silliness.

Good advice. It sounds to me that she enjoys the attention this behaviour gets her.

Thank you for all of your advice and kind words.

I do agree that she likes the attention and a reaction which is why I ignore it. Yet she is persistent and saying that to my grandson was hurtful.

I'm saddened to hear so many other people having similar experiences. BigLouis, I've been to Liverpool many times and it is a wonderful city.

Is she from Somerset? Plenty of jokes and stereotypes also. Try a few in 'retaliation' with a smile, and if she says something- just tell her what is good for the goose, etc- and laugh and just tell her her constant digs are a bit much and can be hurtful.

It was hurtful and out of order bringing your GS into it Grannypalmtree and as you say she likes attention and getting a reaction, ignoring her does seem the best way to go.

Somerset? She must be joking. Surely. We used to laugh at people from there in the bad old days when I lived in London. Maybe that’s her problem- inferiority complex.

Redhead56

She does not have the confidence to be rude she is just clearly ignorant. If she made remarks like that in Liverpool or surrounding area she would be put in her place and quite rightly so.

Your DIL would certainly be put straight in Liverpool/Wirral we take no prisoners when it comes to our heritage.
Does she say this sort of thing to your son ?

The O/P opinion of her daughter in law shows the dislike is both sides

I simple " i am so surprised you married a man from a place you despise so much"

BigLoius I think Liverpool is one of the most wonderful cities i have ever had the pleasure to visit.

She sounds rather insecure

I'd just ignore her when she starts with the daft comments

I used to live on the Wirral and absolutely loved Liverpool and the accent, in fact I like most accents and especially northern ones.. your DIL sounds rather ignorant and untravelled.. I would have definitely not tolerate such lack of respect

Anniebach

The O/P opinion of her daughter in law shows the dislike is both sides

There's no love lost, is there!

Downright rude isn't she. I would try hard to ignore her remarks, but if she kept on I would fail spectacularly!

How horrible. I would be extremely offended if anyone dared to mock my accent or my hometown. I have several towns that I have called home and liked them all.
I can only think she finds it amusing to taunt you like this. But to include her child is unforgivable.
I love Yorkshire and have lived there and have a DiL from there.
I know little about Somerset apart from the cider. Hereford cider is rather good too!

When I went south to London, very many years ago as a student, I said at first that I came from Liverpool, because I thought it the nearest place anyone would have heard of. I found I got a negative response, almost pity. This annoyed me, so I started to say I came from Cheshire, which was actually the truth. The response was quite different. Cheshire, it seems, was considered OK.

She obviously feels inferior to her well-educated, up-together in-laws. Her people may be middle-class but it from what you say, she herself has become déclassée. It happens. Hard on your son.
She is being defensive - and offensive.
Can you talk to your son? Your DGC should not have to hear their grandparents' heritage being insulted.