AIBU about meeting halfway?

babzi

Sounds like it may be a problem for you to look after GS in the first place. Parents work these days and have to find adequate child care. Of course, the best can be GP who usually want to do it. Tell her you cannot do it and let him go to other GP as he will likely not be subjected to their views as they are used to seeing him regularly.

No, no - you are quite, quite wrong in your assumptions. There is no problem at all in us looking after our Grandson, who we see much more regularly than his other grandparents!

If she had to drive all the way to you herself and then again on her return I should think she’d need to go away for at least a week to make all the effort worthwhile!

For what it's worth I think the little chap is lucky to have you as his grandparents. I can't help but feel his needs aren't being met at home, being shoved from pillar to post and he gets excluded from a holiday with his parents - apologies if that's not the case. It sounds like she's wanting everything doing to suit her without really taking her child or parents into consideration at all but if you say anything it'll probably cause more grief and you don't want to see the little one suffer as a result. Sometimes you can get taken for granted so be careful of that. Walking on eggshells springs to mind. Good luck with whatever you decide.

If she had to drive all the way to you herself and then again on her return I should think she’d need to go away for at least a week to make all the effort worthwhile

Nonsense. I used to drive for three hours to visit my parents, one in a nursing home , one not coping at home, on Friday night after a week's teaching, then make the return journey on Sunday afternoon ready to prepare for the full-time week ahead. I was in my fifties with an elderly car, and at one time I was doing it once a fortnight, which was dreadful,

Would you want to do a six hour commute the day before you leave for vacay, while trying to get ready for it? I think not.

Gundy

Would you want to do a six hour commute the day before you leave for vacay, while trying to get ready for it? I think not.

If it meant I was dropping my child off with people who would be doing me the favour of looking after the little one for 4 days to enable me to have the holiday? One hundred percent I would.

I'd rather make a bit more fuss of my child before leaving them.
Not some sort of drop off situation.

Gundy

Would you want to do a six hour commute the day before you leave for vacay, while trying to get ready for it? I think not.

If I wanted to do such a daft thing as holiday without my children, I would certainly do the drop off and pick up of my children from those so kindly doing me such a huge favour.

eazybee

*KatyaStrings*, I agree with you; I am wary of parents who need holiday 'breaks' away from their children, particularly when they work, which means more separation.

The saddest thing I saw was a little nine year old who had been collected from boarding school by her parents; she was going to stay with granny and grandpa for a fortnight and then go on to a lovely holiday club; she was going home for a week, and then, a surprise, she was going to another lovely holiday club while mummy and daddy went to Italy 'on business', and it wasn't possible for them to take her with them 'as they had promised.
She cried, and they said, and made her repeat it. ' 'Remember, Mummy and Daddy love you very much.'

They were clearly wealthy, and clearly completely uninterested in their miserable little daughter.

I really don't see the point of having children if ALL their 'milestones' are happening with somebody else ... repeating the mantra that 'Mummy & Daddy love you very much' doesn't cut it with me I'm afraid!

Nor me. Would I have had a holiday away from my child? No way.

MadeInYorkshire

eazybee

KatyaStrings, I agree with you; I am wary of parents who need holiday 'breaks' away from their children, particularly when they work, which means more separation.

The saddest thing I saw was a little nine year old who had been collected from boarding school by her parents; she was going to stay with granny and grandpa for a fortnight and then go on to a lovely holiday club; she was going home for a week, and then, a surprise, she was going to another lovely holiday club while mummy and daddy went to Italy 'on business', and it wasn't possible for them to take her with them 'as they had promised.
She cried, and they said, and made her repeat it. ' 'Remember, Mummy and Daddy love you very much.'

They were clearly wealthy, and clearly completely uninterested in their miserable little daughter.

I really don't see the point of having children if ALL their 'milestones' are happening with somebody else ... repeating the mantra that 'Mummy & Daddy love you very much' doesn't cut it with me I'm afraid!

Reminds me of a small girl I met years ago when I took my daughter to riding school. It was late morning and this child was almost asleep standing up. She said she didn’t want to ride today so I suggested she spoke to her Mum. She said her Mum was shopping and had got somebody else to drop her off.

It transpired that although it was a Saturday she had already had a swimming lesson, a violin lesson whilst eating snacks on the journeys. After riding she then had someone else picking her up to take her to a birthday party. She wouldn’t see her Mum until about 7pm. I felt so sorry for her.

Dear God. Why do some people have children? Poor child.

Germanshepherdsmum

Dear God. Why do some people have children? Poor child.

Indeed.

Why are children regularly farmed out rather than being cared for by their parents? Care of children by others, apart from dad and mum is bonkers.