My husband didn't abuse me or cheat.. nothing bad like that. He generally just couldn't be arsed with lots of things and i was Included. He made time for all his hobbies, all his work overtime, seeing friends and family but quality time with me was always met with "I'm tierd", "I cant be arsed". We would go out for dinner and he would have nothing to talk to me about and then be rushing to get home to get to bed for an early rise for his morning hobbies. In the evenings he was sit on his computer playing games with my brother in law (or working) whilst I sat down stairs. I felt like a single person who lived with a male housemate who i shared a bed with.
In the end I left and it was a nasty divorce. I swore to never get married again after that. At every turn he could he was nasty. He didn't take accountability for anything and believed that no matter how unhappy you are, you just make it work as marriage is for life.
The final straw for me was when he was called as my emergency contacted from work, he didn't ask if i was okay or try and contact me... I was fine by the way, my work panicked a bit as the weather was horrendous and I was late. They told me they had called him. I was straight into my late meeting when I arrived then I forgot about it. Later that night I remembered they had called him and I asked why he didn't try reaching out to me to see if I was okay and asked if he was concerned? He said no. If you were in an accident I'm sure the police would have said. I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but he had a motorbike and I hated when he went to work on it. Even when things weren't great I still appreciated a "I've got to work" text. But when my work called as I hadn't showed wirh the weather, he couldn't even text me so say "are you okay".
I know it's tiny but it was the last thing in a line of many things over the years.
