UPDATE ON OVERNIGHTER:
The boys are here, just for the afternoon, til lunchtime, they have been a dream. No arguing, polite, fun and funny. They went for a long and muddy walk with grandpa while I cooked their favourite of sausage, chips and beans followed by icecream. I reinforced how very good they were including the 'eavesdropping' method. The little one went to bed at 7.30 and straight to sleep the older one (5) cuddled with me while we watched TV til 9 - late for him but we both enjoyed it. Little one awake at 7.30 am, played quietly, his brother woke at 8.30 - same. I think that children are how you expect them to be. They had a lot of positive attention and were wonderful.