Hi everyone thank you for your input it is very much appreciated
Where we are now is my son has stayed away and only speaking occasionally to his Dad.
(Someone asked about what type of property it was, well mine is my own and my sons was rented and he transferred my name onto the tenancy)
He told his Dad that he had his blood pressure checked and it was high, he sounded quite stressed and sad
I am quite sad too because after all is said and done he is still my son and I do miss him.
The only and main reason I have not tried to get him back within the family is he does always seem to wan this own way and were my husband and I will put up with it his brother will not and last year it came to fisty huffs!!
So even though I would like him back within the family I am afraid that his relationship with his brother could get ugly.
Any advise would be appreciated Thank you x