Your opinion and suggestions please

I'm a little confused by the timescale OP. On 5th January you asked for advice and by 9th January you had swapped back, is that right?

When is the baby due?

Hi everyone thank you for your input it is very much appreciated

Where we are now is my son has stayed away and only speaking occasionally to his Dad.

(Someone asked about what type of property it was, well mine is my own and my sons was rented and he transferred my name onto the tenancy)

He told his Dad that he had his blood pressure checked and it was high, he sounded quite stressed and sad

I am quite sad too because after all is said and done he is still my son and I do miss him.

The only and main reason I have not tried to get him back within the family is he does always seem to wan this own way and were my husband and I will put up with it his brother will not and last year it came to fisty huffs!!

So even though I would like him back within the family I am afraid that his relationship with his brother could get ugly.

Any advise would be appreciated Thank you x

He had his blood pressure checked?! Are you not at all worried about what this is doing to your pregnant dil' s blood pressure?!

I think you need to let them get on with it now. Think about something else.

Oops! forgot the

yes yes I am very worried about everything--but it was un fair for THEM to ask this of me.

I could not live in the pidgeon hole in which they wanted to swap with AND I did ask them for a trial period but my request was fo foed.

Thank you for your comments

PS, Do you think we are all better off without each other

I'm a little puzzled about where your husband comes into this. I gained the impression from your OP that you were on your own and now you speak of your husband and another son. So who moved into the one-bedroom flat? All three of you? I'm not implying that you misled us but I must admit that I am confused.

eliza I would not even begin to try to anwer your last post. Only you know whether you would all be better off without each other. Anyone who expresses an opinion publicly on the subject without having known you all well for years is just asking for trouble.

We would be wrong if we said yes, and wrong if we said no, and if you acted on either of those answers you could do completely the wrong thing and regret it for ever.

Like annodomini I'm wondering why your husband hasn't taken a stand on this. If not, it's about time he did.

My husband was brilliant and tried to calm everyone down

He was concerned for me because he had no seen me in this stressed way
for a long time.

I think the best thing is to let things lie for a while

I have no feeling of guilt, I do have concerns of course because this is not a good situation

For the person that was confused--I am married and husband and I swapped--we do have another son but he does not live with us.

Thanks everyone, your in put is much appreciated as this is not a problem I could talk to anyone else about.

Thank you

I thought this was done and dusted - if it is, let sleeping dogs lie - and not just for a while, Full Stop. I dont know why you are suffused with guilt vis a vis your son - he is a grown man and needs to fend for himself not come running to mummy. I am surprised your DH even countenanced the idea.
Tough love is what is needed here and I also hope your DH can stop you doing anything silly like offering a similar move at any time in the future. As jingl would say -

Dear soutra thank you for your comments--I dont believe I said I felt guilty about my son at all but again thank you for your comments all be it them being a bit aggressive thanks Eliza

Could you point out one aggressive syllable in my post? I am baffled.

Didn't the OP mention feeling guilty?

I thought you felt guilty about messing them about - first you will swap homes and then, when the deed is done, you change your mind. You are bound to feel guilty. It was a mess.

Just let it go now.

yes good advise jinglebellsfrock thank you--just wanted to say thank you to everyone because you ALL helped--apologies to soutra I was feeling a bit raw at the time of your posting and a kitten meowing would have sounded aggressive so sorry and please accept my apologies and a thank you.

Thank you for helping me through a difficult time

Keep posting Eliza on other treads