Husbands

If a man punched his wife (you/your sister/your daughter) 'only once' in the ear would it be OK?

Indeed - and my Ex was an abuser. There was a lot of history before that bowl of hot oil and for many years after it. I never hit him, and never threw anything at him ever again - I was far too scared to. DBH would never dream of hitting anyone, I can't imagine going back to those days and living in fear the way I used to, it feels as if I am looking at the life of someone else.

Ex was one of those men who changed as soon as they got married. He told me that he thought of me as a possession, and I should always ask his permission before I did anything. He was also an alcoholic. Husbands (and wives) do indeed come in many guises. Yet despite all the dreadful things he did to me, I still feel guilty about that oil, but wish he had had at least a splash of it. I have quite a few scars, he has none.

janerowena

I have only just stopped hating him, after 20 years, I don't need the flowers, I am fine, but thank you anyway! If he would only emigrate I would be very happy.

And what does make me exceedingly happy is that after years of managing to hide his alcoholism, he now has a big bulbous red drinker's nose. Ha.

No Penstemon it wouldn't be ok. Perhaps I haven't read every post so may have missed the one about the punch.

Women are communicators and men are not, that's why women prefer a row and men retreat off to bed/shed/ pub etc.However, it would be worse if men shouted and screamed back at you wouldn't it? A lot more threatening.So, probably a good thing if they do retreat, and women shouted less. What annoys men [who think differently] is that women rarely argue about one single thing, a row brings up things from yonks ago; who hasn't yelled 'and another thing.....!!!' while the man gaped in amazement.

Oh God, I would hate it if mine tried to argue back! He doesn't usually bother. He knows I'm always right.