Hopeless dilemma

I am glad there is a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel Lucky. One of the most distressing things in life is to feel impotent (I know that feeling very well as far as DD and her husband are concerned!) and there isn't really a solution apart from confiding in friends. I hope you consider us to be your friends (with obvious glaring exceptions!) and will continue to tell us when there are things that are troubling you.

In fact, I hope the rest of us continue to be as supportive as GN can and used to be. The helpful posts on here outweigh the 'unhelpful' ones but the message can easily get lost when one or two people do not know when to shut the f**k up!!

If you are in financial thrall to a member of your family as is Lucky's DD ,then it is probably the equivalent of turning on your boss before you get sacked if she rounded on him. Keep the little one out of his way and if asked why he doesn't see his DGS tell the truth . I once heard my MIL threaten my daughter( 14 months) when the baby was trying to grab her shiny metal glasses. Mil was on holiday with us as my brother's guest. I didn't say anything but kept between her and her Gran from then on.

petra your post is disgraceful as are some of the others on this thread.

They say more about the posters than they do about the target, without a doubt.

I immediately wish I had not picked specifically on Petra's post.

There have been a number of distasteful/disgraceful posts in the last few days.

And GN was never the haven of peace and light that some people chose to think it was.

Finally I agree with just about everything jbf has said in her last few posts.

I would rather be without him if he hit my child, it will happen eventually anyway. Meanwhile never leave children in his care.

Pettalus. I was being very restrained in that post.

There is no point in continuing with this thread because the OP has said she is going to reply to those who have supported her via PMs'

Her dilemma will be resolved regardless of what is written on here so this thread is in danger of becoming yet another unecessary slanging match.

Rather you then me petra

Yet another disrupted or digressed thread, and it was such an important topic for the OP.

Why?!!!

(I mean why start this up again?)

I was thinking the same, jingl...

Oh good - he won't be around for much longer then!

How very distressing for you all Luckygirl. Has discipline ever been discussed with the family? I know my daughter has always made it quite plain that smacking was never acceptable. I don't think I would have ever considered smacking my grandchildren anyway, but I will always go by her rules, even ones I don't agree with. This chap doesn't sound a very likeable character and may not listen but I think your DD should state her own rules.

Hey Luckygirl, I have no idea who you are or what has gone on before but would just like to say that you are not over reacting at all. In fact you are being very restrained, fair enough given the circumstances, and I accept that things are difficult for your DD. The nasty bully cannot be allowed to be so controlling and to deliberately goad a 3 year old in order to get a reaction. He is abusive and luckily he does not have me or my daughter to deal with or he would not be standing up straight now I can tell you!
I am seething because my grandson is also 3 and does get carried away sometimes but is spoken to not hit.
I wish you luck with this awful situation but I think a word with this nasty man has to be had.

Oh dear me....not again! We all know about the oxygen of publicity so why are we still providing it for STB? The answer is in our own hands, no comment whatsoever......

Luckygirl, I so hope that this dreadful situation can be resolved with the least amount of damage.

Uncalled for!

I don't see any other workable solution. Sorry if you don't agree Petallus. If we wouldn't tolerate certain behaviours in RL then the same applies here. We don't have to communicate with those we don't want to.

Then why mention the person you do not wish to communicate with in your post?

If I have interpreted your post correctly, I consider it to be totally unfair.

There have been numerous references to the poster in question and many direct responses to her by those who have been distressed by her posts. Their name is not a secret! ( I have reverted to slightly more veiled language as you seem to prefer it. )

Are you assuming I'm talking about a vendetta Petallus? If so, you are incorrect. Those who are being hurt should disengage as there is no point in any further conversation with the poster in question. Anybody else is free to do exactly what they want.

I don't remember many distressed people, maybe one. I certainly don't find the posts distressing. I actually like reading them. It's horses for courses isn't it.

I just wanted to disassociate myself from your original post.

It's a lovely day and I'm off to an exhibition and the seaside. I an going to follow your advice and not give this thread any more oxygen.

It was only by commenting in the first place that you associated yourself Petallus! As I say, no comment would have achieved the same result.

Off out as well on a greyish but dry day. Hope you enjoy your exhibition.

Posted too quickly - am also about to follow own advice

#bloodyGransnet

and I don't include petallus in that