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Disowning the family.

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rubylady Mon 04-Apr-16 18:27:15

I want to cut my extended family out of my life. The trouble is, they keep getting back in touch. I really don't want to be anywhere near them, I don't trust them at all. I am talking my siblings and my mother. How do I make it clear once and for all that I don't want them in my life? Or do I have to do it legally, even if you can do? They don't take no for an answer. It feels like being stalked.

rubylady Fri 08-Apr-16 16:13:00

Hi, I will be back on when I'm feeling better. Emergency docs last night, prescribed antibiotics for chest and throat infection, I keep shaking, I had a temperature and today a rash has come up. I feel awful.

Thanks for all your concern everyone and I will be back soon, right now I'm off to find my bed.

Xxxflowers

Penstemmon Fri 08-Apr-16 16:21:12

flowers get well soon ruby

shysal Fri 08-Apr-16 16:51:19

Take care rubylady, now it is time to put yourself first. flowers

rubylady Fri 08-Apr-16 17:02:22

I know, and my DS has just deserted the sinking ship! Out for the night at his mates iwth his friends. So I am on my lonesome. sad

Jalima Fri 08-Apr-16 17:24:16

Take care rubylady and make sure that the rash is not a penicillin rash (don't be alarmed, but several in my family are allergic to it).
Hope you feel better soon flowers [and plenty of fluids]

UkeCan61 Fri 08-Apr-16 17:36:47

Oh Goldiewing (((hugs))) my heart goes out to you. flowers

UkeCan61 Fri 08-Apr-16 17:43:55

Rubylady hope you're feeling a bit better. (((hugs))) flowers

Wendysue Sat 09-Apr-16 00:23:55

More (((hugs))) Feel better!

Luckylegs9 Sat 09-Apr-16 07:18:05

Say no enough, they will give up. Just take care of yourself.

wot Sat 09-Apr-16 18:33:38

My brother and his wife who live in Holland have hardly spoken to me for 18 months. They were angry that they tried to help me move house but my partner said he,d changed his mind and wouldn't move. They thought I was being "soft" not kicking him out. Anyway, my brother phoned me this afternoon. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders although I think it was unnecessarily cruel for me to have to go through those eighteen months. I've always believe d in talking things through. I don't know what promted their change of heart. He has a biggish family over there and I have hugger all up here in Norfolk. There's nowt as queer as folk.

JackieBee1 Sat 09-Apr-16 18:34:25

Get well soon Ruby, and keep talking to your dad.
flowers
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wot Sat 09-Apr-16 22:32:57

Sorry, I posted on wrong thread. Should have been on cut out of families lives.