I suggested to a very recently widowed friend that when she felt up to it, did she fancy going on one of the ' bargain break' coach hols to Scotland for a few days? I had already mentioned to my partner, who was quite happy about this. it's something I have always fancied doing, and and I thought it would be an ideal opportunity for my friend to try, thinking perhaps next spring. This was one night last week, we had a chat about it. This week, she tells me she has booked one of these trips with another friend,all booked, paid for, animals in kennels etc, for September. I did say ( nicely, I know she is vulnerable at the moment, and I have been widowed,so I understand the emotional upset) that I thought it had been a plan for she and I and she said " well I want to go with you too sometime" . I feel a bit hurt to be honest. The other friend has done this before, I assume on hearing of potential plans ,seizes on them, and as she lives alone puts them quickly into action, whereas I have to budget a bit and plan ahead cos of GC duties etc. I feel I want to say something to my widowed friend, i.e how has this come about so suddenly, why is she going with other pal after my suggestion?It also seems to me she is not sure about going anyway, and the other person is very frosty towards others at times, and has often put a damper on trips away, whereas myself and my friend usually have a laugh if things go wrong or someone gets in our nerves a bit. What do I do?do I fret inwardly, leave it, say something? It's nagging at me that it feels unfair, which is selfish considering my friend has just lost her husband, thoughts and comments pleeease!
How do you acknowledge Easter.