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Mr P has just complained about his dinner, who's right, him or me?

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phoenix Sun 09-Apr-17 18:45:11

Evening all,

Mr P is currently away from Monday morning until Friday afternoon, with no access to a kitchen and a limited budget for eating out.

So, when he IS home, I try to do reasonably healthy food.

Friday. Sweet chili chicken, bami goreng, small salad on the side.

Saturday. Grilled ribeye steak (on special offer in Lidl) jacket potato, salad.

Sunday. Chicken parcels (a chicken breast, a quality chipolata sausage on top, wrap the whole thing in bacon, bung in dish and roast) roast potatoes, cauliflower cheese (not a whole cauliflower, just cut off a few decent sized florets) leeks, mashed swede, stuffing, a few carrots for me (he's not keen on carrots confused) gravy, of course.

He says I do too many different veg, I disagree!

I prep them all, (apart from the potatoes, somehow we have got into the habit of doing them together, him peeling, me chopping ready for par boiling, while listening to the omnibus edition of the Archers blush )

I feel that he eats some pretty crap food while away, so like to feel that I'm at least giving him something halfway decent when he's at home!

BTW, he did say he enjoyed his meal, just that there was a bit too much. Didn't see anything left on the plate though.........

tanith Sun 09-Apr-17 18:49:58

All sounds perfectly balanced to me, I always do more choice of veg on Sundays than I probably would for a weekday meal.

KatyK Sun 09-Apr-17 18:50:38

Well it sounds wonderful to me! I don't think you can have too much veg and you've just reminded me of how long it's been since I had bami goreng yum.

Ana Sun 09-Apr-17 18:52:13

Surely it's just a matter of opinion - neither of you is 'right' or 'wrong'...hmm

aggie Sun 09-Apr-17 19:11:42

I think he is a nit picker !!

Charleygirl Sun 09-Apr-17 19:14:17

If that is the normal menu for a weekend and Mr.P is not too happy, I am more than willing to pop down each weekend with Tara. I think from memory you have cats so that may be a slight problem. I am good at washing up.

I am sure he gets no fruit or vegetables during the week so he is eating healthily at weekends. He is lucky and should be counting his blessings. Amazing that his plate was empty but he had been given too much food!

Penstemmon Sun 09-Apr-17 19:36:56

Oh! I would prepare enough of whatever you fancy veg wise and just do frozen peas for Mr P net weekend grin He'll get the message!

I just did a recipe which included roast avocado..I won't be doing that again confused

kittylester Sun 09-Apr-17 19:39:41

What's your address, phoenix?

phoenix Sun 09-Apr-17 19:46:11


phoenix Sun 09-Apr-17 19:51:33

Yes, I suppose no one is right or wrong Ana, but what makes it even more confused is the fact that once everything is ready, meat rested, veg drained etc, it's actually HIM that dishes up!

Craicon Sun 09-Apr-17 19:53:39

I got fed up with my DH being a fussy eater so I stopped cooking for him. He has to sort himself out for 90% of his meals. (He does eat quite a lot of tins of soup but that's his choice!)

How would Mr P feel about that?

mumofmadboys Sun 09-Apr-17 19:58:24

We will all come next weekend Phoenix! We will appreciate it all!!

nanaK54 Sun 09-Apr-17 20:06:40

Sounds just abut perfect to me smile

SueDonim Sun 09-Apr-17 20:08:57

I'm another Gransnetter who's inviting themself to dinner, Phoenix. grin

Maybe remind your dh that we're all supposed to eat Five a Day. Dh and I tried the recent recommendation of ten a day and that was a bit much, even though we like our veggies!

phoenix Sun 09-Apr-17 20:15:10

Thanks all!

Mr P isn't really fussy, apart from not liking carrots, or parsnips, sprouts, trifle, cake, mince pies, Christmas pudding............!

Generally he's very appreciative of what I cook, and when he isn't away happily does some of the cooking, but he did have the nerve to complain/pass comment/moan about today's offering!

Deedaa Sun 09-Apr-17 20:22:21

Perhaps he just doesn't want you doing too much? Sounded lovely to me, I'll be round next weekend grin

sunseeker Sun 09-Apr-17 20:23:55

I love a good mixture of vegetables, half my plate is always just veggies. As I live alone I buy the pre chopped fresh mixed vegetables from Sainsburys, more expensive but at least I don't end up throwing anything away. Next week try him with beans on toast, I guarantee he won't complain again!

NfkDumpling Sun 09-Apr-17 20:34:37

My DH does the cooking and he does about the same variety of veg so it seems normal to me. Love your chicken parcels - have passed it on as a suggestion.

TerriBull Sun 09-Apr-17 20:44:34

All sounds good to me Phoenix. My husband wouldn't date....more than his life's worth grin

Crafting Sun 09-Apr-17 20:45:10

I love your version of a healthy meal Phoenix grin chicken, bacon, sausage, roast potatoes, cauliflower cheese. Tel me you have sticky toffee pudding and custard for desert and I'll be over like a shot.......with DH following behind as fast as he can.

We have 3 ½ oz plain chicken (no skin), one small boiled potatofor me and 2 for DH, some cauliflower (no cheese) a couple of carrots and for pudding a handful of grapes and a pear. I know whose house I'd rather eat in ...can we come over next weekend please grin

TerriBull Sun 09-Apr-17 20:45:31

dare not date, yeah that would be more than his life's worth too grin

Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Apr-17 20:49:04

Yes, mine does the cooking too, NfkDumpling, and I feel very lucky (it's something he's only taken up since he retired, so we've reversed roles in this respect). With that in mind, I have to say that I never, ever, complain about anything he dishes up, and I thank him profusely after every meal. He's a good cook and I'm not rocking the boat! Your menu sounds just fine. wine to all the cooks!

Maggiemaybe Sun 09-Apr-17 20:49:56

TerriBull grin

janeainsworth Sun 09-Apr-17 20:53:48

How very dare he complain!grin
MrA worked away for 5 years and the weekends were actually quite difficult!

grumppa Sun 09-Apr-17 21:00:47

Was he just hinting that he is not a great fan of mashed swede? In which case his name might be legion, for we are many.