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Charlie Gard

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devongirl Sun 09-Jul-17 18:18:35

My heart absolutely bleeds for his parents, but I can't help thinking it's time to let him die in peace..

Baggs Fri 28-Jul-17 15:25:08

paddyann, I'm sorry to hear your account of what the doctor said to you when your child died. It does sound very off-hand. I think it might well not have been intended to sound callous though. Being a doctor to children who die must be harrowing and I expect doctors need to keep emotionally detached just to stay sane.

Anniebach Fri 28-Jul-17 15:25:10

What ever helps with grief and that awful feeling of loss, sixteen days seems long to keep the corpse though , that poor young couple

harrigran Fri 28-Jul-17 18:19:44

It is all over sad

Devorgilla Fri 28-Jul-17 18:22:52

Yes, I have just seen it on the news. So very, very sad.

Jalima1108 Fri 28-Jul-17 18:32:57

RIP Charlie sad

And I hope the parents can find some peace.

rafichagran Fri 28-Jul-17 18:33:43

Very very sad.

Luckygirl Fri 28-Jul-17 18:37:15

I do hope that these young parents get some proper support and counseling; and are left to grieve and have the funeral quietly and in private.

gillybob Fri 28-Jul-17 18:38:15

Just heard of little Charlie's death. How sad it must be for any parent to watch their child die. A million times worse the way it had been played out in the media like a courtroom drama .
Your stories are heartbreaking paddyann and anniebach I can't imagine how you could begin to get over such a loss .

Jalima1108 Fri 28-Jul-17 18:39:10

So sorry you encountered someone like that paddyann

Someone very close to me was a neo-natal consultant and changed specialties after having a family of her own; it is very difficult to remain emotionally detached.

aggie Fri 28-Jul-17 18:41:32

God bless Charlie

silversurf Fri 28-Jul-17 19:08:24

God bless you precious little boy.

jacksmum Fri 28-Jul-17 19:08:25

R I P Charlie
i really hope there is now not alot more of the horrible slating of the hospital, if it had not been for the dedicated staff there this baby would have not lived this long,

Nelliemoser Fri 28-Jul-17 19:46:05

RIP Charlie at rest at last.
All I can say is thank goodness that someone has finally had the wisdom to stop this long drawn out mess.
It will be better for the parents to have closure. It will be distressing yes that is to be expected.

The long delays of "can I just try this" and "could I just try that", in the circumstances of this really devastating disease when the child was severely brain damaged within probably the first two months has disturbed me.

Anniebach Fri 28-Jul-17 19:46:12

Rest little darling in the every open arms

How blessed you were to have parents who loved you deeply and fought so hard for you .

Penstemmon Fri 28-Jul-17 20:23:56

I hope that this child's parents will be able to find peace and privacy to grieve for their beloved boy and find true support to get through the next phase of their lives.

NanKate Fri 28-Jul-17 20:36:19

flowers in memory of Charlie.

Joelise Fri 28-Jul-17 22:37:33

RIP little man, and may your parents be given the comfort that they deserve.

Day6 Fri 28-Jul-17 23:47:14

It's awfully sad, but I am glad the whole sorry saga has ended, for both Charlie and his parents. No good came out of it and I hope his parents can now be given the support they need to grieve and eventually move on.

Imperfect27 Sat 29-Jul-17 07:37:44

So very sad. I feel the parents have so much still to contend with. I truly hope they are given the space to grieve quietly - I think they will need support to do so, I hope it can be away from the public gaze. I am sure unscrupulous people will be lining up to offer money for 'their tragic story'. I hope they have people around them who can protect them at a time when they are so vulnerable.

jollyg Sat 29-Jul-17 12:21:09

Me too, the vultures will be circling to get a slice of the 1.3 million donated, if not directly by mail, could be the 'trusted 'team who might oversee the foundation as proposed by the father.

"uman nature does not change. Moi a sceptic, sadly yes.

devongirl Sat 29-Jul-17 12:29:21

A complete change of scenery for the parents away from the media would be a really good idea, once the funeral is over.

Anniebach Sat 29-Jul-17 12:32:59

Naturally tv companies will want to interview them and newspapers will want to buy their story . Perhaps they will cope with their grief by starting work for the foundation quite soon. Grief is a very personal emotion and people cope differently

Luckygirl Sat 29-Jul-17 12:39:28

There are links on Mumsnet indicating the unscrupulous behaviour of the media in vamping up this "story." Makes you sick. sad

Penstemmon Sat 29-Jul-17 13:34:02

Annie it should not be 'naturally' that the media wants to use this couple's terrible loss for their commercial gain. Whilst it seems this couple sought (or were encouraged to seek) publicity to help 'win' what they thought would help their child they need privacy now, surely?
This is not a special case. Charlie was not more loved or precious than any other sick or dying child whose parents managed their personal trauma differently. The loss of a child, of any age, is a dreadful thing to ever have to deal with. For that I have great sympathy for Charlie's parents.

Anniebach Sat 29-Jul-17 13:43:04

Penstemmon, I said naturally I did not say it was acceptable . Did you not know when a child is murdered the family are hounded , it's what happens , fact, as sure as night follows day , I am just stating what happens and not that I agree with it,

I haven't read or heard anyone say these parents are different to any grieving parents, perhaps you would like to say where you have heard or read it?