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Putting headbands on young baby girls (and other stuff)

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Fairydoll2030 Mon 07-Aug-17 14:02:01

I realise this is a bit of trivia but what do folks think about the fashion nowadays of putting headbands on young baby girls - especially those without much hair? I recently saw a picture on Instagram of an acquaintance of mine's 10 week old baby girl. Apparently her outfit which included a denim jacket plus frilly dress and shoes (by Dolce and Gabanna so the accompaniment to the picture stated) was topped off by a hideous looking headband. The baby barely has any hair and I couldn't help thinking how uncomfortable the poor little mite looked. We all want our babies to look cute but is this taking it to extremes? It's just my opinion and I won't lose any sleep over it - but what do other grans think?

grannyscott Tue 08-Aug-17 10:10:15

Definitely Naff! Another silly import from The USA.

Riversidegirl Tue 08-Aug-17 10:12:32

The first time I saw one, some years ago, I thought the child had had an operation!

Franbern Tue 08-Aug-17 10:13:13

Must say I think that small babies dressed in babygro's is ideal. sleeveless and legless in hot weather. Easy to wear, easy for changing and comfortable. Hate to see any sort of shoes on any pre-walking little one. Nothing needed on heads, except in extremely cold weather and then a wooly pull-on hat.
Unfortunately, too many parents (and g.parents) seem to want their children to grow up much too quickly. So, the fashion clothes for babies and by the time they are ready to start school put into teenage clothes and so on and so forth. So few years of being a baby and a child, should not see them as mini adults in any way.
With regard to knowing their gender. I can remember, many years ago, a friend of mine with boy/girl twins, always being asked what they were and she would tell people. Amazing how many people on hearing that would then ask 'Are they identical?' To which she always replied that they did have certain differences!!!

GoldenAge Tue 08-Aug-17 10:16:50

Headbands on baby girls are nothing short of ridiculous, and potentially very dangerous. Each time I see a baby wearing one, I look carefully to see what it's made of - invariably some synthetic stretchy fabric not good for the scalp and certainly the cause of unnecessary head sweating. More to the point it emphasises right from the start the idea that little girls need to dress 'up' in a way that boys don't. If girls attend ballet classes when they're older they have to wear a stretchy headband, and my experience is that they're all so glad when they take these off - a three month old baby simply has to suffer. What in the world is the matter with young mums I ask myself? Can't they try to imagine how their babies feel instead of being obsessed with how they look.

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 10:18:51

That pink thing ( hat bonnet whatever it is ) is hideous . Yet you see babies wearing similar don't you ? I hate those giant frilly dress affairs too .

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 10:22:19

Goldenage you clearly have too much time on your hands to study the fabric of a babies headwear . grin my mum used to put my sister and I in frilly frocks . Gross. and I can image very uncomfortable too . Not to mention those horrible soppy nappies and plastic pants . But hey times move on for most don't they .

Oddoneout Tue 08-Aug-17 10:23:16

I feel sorry for babies whose mothers put headbands on them or any other expressions of adult taste.

glammanana Tue 08-Aug-17 10:29:57

They weren't popular when my DGDs where babies but my DGSs partner does use them for my GGD they are loosely elasticated a nd look cute when teamed with a matching outfit,I would never voice my thoughts on them to the mum as how she dresses her baby is her personal choice and I would never ever rock the relationship by commenting on anything the baby was wearing.

Kim19 Tue 08-Aug-17 10:30:12

Think they are both unflattering and silly but....... I hadn't thought about the Mums fending off the gender identification problem. It may help Mums whilst ridiculing a child who doesn't know any better. Perhaps a temporary OK?

Luckygirl Tue 08-Aug-17 10:36:52

I admit I do not like them - just silly really and potentially dangerous, although I do not know that they have been the cause of any accidents.....actually there is - I just looked it up. In Liverpool I believe. 14 week old in a hairband with a big bow which slipped down over her face while she slept.

I hate babies in anything that has a waist - so uncomfortable for them. Things like jeans - FGS why would you put jeans on a tiny baby? Dungarees, babygros, anything that is comfy - these are what you want.

I feel mildly irritated by young parents using their babies as dressing up dolls!

Deborahuns Tue 08-Aug-17 10:42:00

I think anyone sensible takes the bands off when they go to sleep. All my daughters and daughters in law only put them on the mini girls for 'best' but if yourbpic mentioned the designer name it's a form of showing off, that's all. As in ' have baby will show off their clothes etc ' like a pet!!!

paddyann Tue 08-Aug-17 10:49:03

Hands up ,after losing my first two babies my daughter had the most extensive wardrobe.I had a small suitcase I took when we visited and she was changed if she even dribbled on her dress/top.By the time she was a year old there were over 70 outfits in her cupboard..and thats not counting the ones we'd passed onto other babies that she had grown out of.When my MIL's best friendhad a late pregnancy and a baby girl in her late 40's we gave her fifty complete outfits a lot that still had labels on .Its NOT a crime to clothe your child how YOU want...they cant make the choice ,though mine were allowed to choose their clothes once they could ,about 18 months I think.My son always had to co ordinate everything even underpants and socks...with matching sunglasses..even in winter .All you folk who have a downer on people who "use babies as dressing dolls" are sad individuals ,theres babies being neglected,going hungry ,being abused ...make the mothers of those babies your target..not the young mums that only want the best for them

IngeJones Tue 08-Aug-17 10:56:42

Anyway what does it matter if someone accidentally calls your girl baby "he"? The baby has no idea what the word means. By the time the child is old enough to understand the words and be confused about her gender identity, she'd have been too old to wear one of these anyway!

Yorkshiregirl Tue 08-Aug-17 11:00:40

What a miserable lot you are ! For goodness sake get a life and stop moaning about trivialities. People including babies are dying, families are left devastated ! Does it chuffing matter what head gear their mums choose for these babies.

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 11:02:33

Exactly yorkshiregirl

Tudorrose Tue 08-Aug-17 11:05:39

I heartily agree about the headbands, frills & denim. On a similar theme I abhor pierced ears on babies(I have seen on both sexes), I view it as assault on a defenceless child.Babies need no adornment & it is potentially dangerous

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 11:11:04

People have been dressing their children up and adorning them with jewellery since the beginning of time . This thread is annoying to say the least . Did none of you people ever put a frilly frock on your child? A crocheted bonnet? A pair if frilly knickers? Whatever ? Shaking head in amazement .

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 11:11:39

The kangaroo court of perfect grannies and parents strikes again .

nananina Tue 08-Aug-17 11:11:51

Yorkshiregirl are you the monitor of the thread?

I hate those headbands mostly because they are potentially dangerous. Sooner or later a baby is going to be choked when it slips off and twists round her neck while she's sleeping.

sluttygran Tue 08-Aug-17 11:17:43

I suppose I'm old fashioned too, but I like to see babies in soft, clothes. They grow up soon enough, and I'm sure they are more comfortable in simple outfits. My DGD was a 'baldy' and had an assortment of headbands which always slipped over one eye, making her look a bit tipsy!
The other day, I saw one of those extravagant bespoke prams - mountains of pink frills and lace, completely obscuring the baby, and enough diamanté to sink a ship. On the side of the pram, picked out in sparkly crystals, was the legend 'Darling Princess'. We all love our little ones, but that was maybe a step too far!

Cagsy Tue 08-Aug-17 11:26:12

I dislike them and my DH hates them, fortunately so does our DiL so my only DGD (3 DGS) has never worn them - phew!

paddyann Tue 08-Aug-17 11:28:26

In YOUR opinion sluttygran her mother thought it was stunning ,fabulous and amazing...and as its her baby its only HER opinion that counts.What a shower of old moaning minnies ,let the young mum enjoy HER baby her way .Personally I used babygros as sleep wear on mine ...and proper CLOTHES when they were awake and out and about ,just the same as I do myself .None of you walk your baies in High Silver Cross prams with hand made covers? Or pram toys on them? Then you are the odd ones out ,most mums I know have beautifully kept prams,and moses baskets AND cots and well done to them....

sluttygran Tue 08-Aug-17 11:31:38

It's a good job we all have different ideas, or Gransnet would be rather bland, wouldn't it?

Yorkshiregirl Tue 08-Aug-17 11:36:56

No I'm not the monitor of this thread Nananina, are you ? I just cant stand people who moan over silly things. Like everything else if used responsible they are not a danger. There are more important things than head gear. These young mums are juggling careers, homes and bringing up their children...mostly very well. I for one take my hat off to them.

gillybob Tue 08-Aug-17 11:40:14

Yes exactly . But it gives people something to have a good moan about .