has this happened to you?

I would have been very hurt up and wouldn't be able to hide it. I think that's awful, at least you should have been asked and had the opportunity to say no!

Oh how hard, I think I d have to let them know that i would have like to have gone otherwise they will go on thinking you re not up for it They might have been being kind thinking you couldn't manage butbif you could have managed DO let them know Do you have to be housebound rabbitpie ? even people with major problems and disabilities can get out if helped or taken

Thank you all - I think it was thoughtlessness rather than ill- will and i will have a smiley face to greet them, just wondered if i was alone in feeling hurt that I am no longer capable of making decisions of my own. Invitations like that i tend to interpret as 'we would have invited you but were afraid you'd say yes. '

Yes, I knew that, aggie I am sure you can do "What a good time you have had , it sounds a very good place. Now let's have a nice time here" combined with geting over how you WOULD have been fit to come and would have enjoyed it, just as well as you could do the righteous indignation recommended by others.

I was answering Aggie's message -

I have now read all the posts since the OP and I must say here DON'T FALL OUT WITH THEM OVER IT!!! If you do they will be inviting you to the next out of obligation, not because they know you would like it and they in their turn would like you to be there.

I'd have replied instantly and with a laugh, "Oh but I'd have loved it! Is there still a place for me?" The laugh is essential.

The worst thing to do is to to "keep these things and ponder them in your heart" so that you become convinced that it is a conspiracy to block you out - it isn't, they probably did truly think that you would find it tiring and you would be waiting for them in the afternoon with the cake and a smile.

When they arrive, give them all a hug (particularly the birthday boy/girl) and ask them a lot of questions about their lovely meal. If they mention one of your favourite foods, tell them how much you always like that and how you can't remember how long it is since you tasted it. Hint hint!!

I can't do that - it's ny daughter's birthday and she wasn't the one issuing the invitations

Wow, they're pisstakers of the highest order. How selfish and inconsiderate of them and to expect you to cater for tea afterwards??
If they genuinely thought you wouldn't want to go, they SHOULD STILL HAVE INVITED YOU and given you the choice.

Tell them yes you want to go and what time are they collecting you please?

I would have shot back - 'Well, you could have asked!'

How thoughtless of them...

I would have cancelled the tea !