Do you find it difficult to have a relationship with your grandchildren? Does your introverted nature make this harder? What about with your children? Do you find it difficult to tell or show them that you love them?
I have had a major falling out with my mother (71). She is an introvert and I (44) am an extrovert. I have spent my entire life feeling emotionally neglected by my mother as she has never managed to demonstrate her love to me. In fact, she tends to criticise readily but never expresses pride in anything I achieve, joy for me or just happiness of any kind. She is also completely disinterested in my children. She sees the negative in everything.
After she sent me a particularly horrid email (telling me how I was damaging my children and how my actions may lead them to suicide - my actions being that I want to go away for three weeks on an adventure challenge leaving my 12 and 13 year olds with their father), I'd had enough. So I wrote her an email telling her how hurt I had been for years about her emotional unavailability and lack of interest in my life (except for criticism).
She responded by saying 'I know I'm not what you want as a mother. We are just so diametrically opposed in nature. You are an extrovert and I am a total introvert. I do not have the nature to make an effusive fuss of the things you achieve.' She then proceeded on three paragraphs of guilt tripping why everything that has happened in our relationship is my fault for failing to understand her introverted nature.
For the record, I never asked for a fuss to be made, just a basic polite acknowledgement would be nice.
But do I just not understand introverts enough. Is this typical behaviour or does it sound like she has other issues going on?
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