What is the right thing to do

DGS1 still gets upset sometimes, other times when I'm leaving his home we say Good-Bye & he will often disappear to his bedroom. On occassion my DD & I will still be chatting 10 mins later when he comes down. He just looks at me & says " I thought you'd gone home Nan". Cue another kiss & hug

I have noticed he is more likely to cry when he leaves me rather than when I leave his home.

It's just like when your kids were tiny and you dropped them off at the childminder/nursery. Lots of wailing and gnashing of teeth to make you feel guilty but the second you got out of sight they just got on with things.

I think you should do whatever your DIL thinks is best - your grandson will thrive whatever you do - as others have said it's just another phase & he'll get over it - the relationship with your DIL is paramount and should be treasured.

Lots of good ideas here but leaving with a laugh is a good thing to aim for. How about if you say 'See you later, alligator' and he will soon learn the reply! Shakespeare had it right when he said 'Parting is such sweet sorrow' (Apologies if that quote isn't spot on but you know what I mean.

Always say goodbye and ask to look after scarf/gloves etc until you come again soon. He will be reassured you will return.

Hi dbDB77 before I give my update just wanted to say that my relationship with my grandson is far more important to me.

Ok so it worked!! Thank you so very much for all the advice.

What actually worked was when saying goodbye to give him something to take with him that he was asked to bring back when he comes back (a dragons story book in this instance) it worked a charm, it made such a difference and no tears.

I can not tell you how grateful I am

What a weight off my mind, it was upsetting us all, so thanks again so much