Hi I know how you feel but please take my advise from someone who has been there .Don't interfere .Even though you see it as helping .your dil will not see it the same way .I have 11 grandchildren and it's taken me many years and many tears to realise those children are not mine. They have their own parents and all I can do is support them and their decisions. Sometimes this can be very hard as I dearly love the children and want the best for them .But I know now you got to think long term. If you go against your dil now then it will cause a problem and things will continue to get worse because you may not agree with the next big decision they make and go against them again Your dil is the mother. She holds all the cards. She has the power to make it very hard for you to see those children if relations break down .it nearly happened to me .So just go with her wishes and leave it at that .As people on here said already I think the hospital would have advised a breathing monitor if it was necessary .There is going to be many special days ahead for your with your grandchild so don't spoil it.tread carefully .think long term. Keep your eye on the prize.
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