advice about dad

sorry for no replys my hubby was taken ill been in hospital with him he has angina went by ambulance to hospital. was crying reading your threat replies.have had several chats with dad brought up sacking cleaner did not go well, he will not sack her told me i can not sack her. i got 2 of his friends involved they came round with me for a chat with him, he will not sack her.she weems to not be there as much, neighbours our watching him for me.i evan said my mum and sister who both died from cancer would turn in there grave if they knew what was going on. he just said he was fine, i asked about poa he does not want to do it, his 2 friends both agree with me we might push him too far if we get too heavy handed ie social services. im broken completely know its wrong but he is forgetful yes old yes but ,evan his 2 old friends who agree completely with me say he will not budge andthey have met cleaner know about her say we cant do any more if dad wont ,so will watch more closely, visit at different times to try and catch her out,feel a complete mess stress etc

busybee6969 thank you for the update. I'm sure everyone is sorry about the stress of your husband's illness and wish him well.
Re your father, will you put a camera in as so many suggest?

This is elder abuse pure and simple. Report it to the police or social services. They deal with this every day. I used to work for social services.

Without your intervention your dad could be left with nothing.

I hope that your husband soon recovers. You need to look after youself too. Maybe look at getting some help for yourself- talk to your local carers support group.

If this was happening to me my Children would have her out no trouble. Anyone putting a claim to their future inheritance would be like a red rag to a bull lol

Like Franjess I also worked in Adult Services. I actually worked in the department which deals with the abuse of adults who are deemed vulnerable. It is now called Safeguarding and there would be such an unit in your local council, Meetings are held with the presence of trained police officers from the outset to determine whether or not any abuse has occurred and action would be taken accordingly by the police