advice about dad

I have not read all the answers but maybe get a camera installed in his house.

Does anyone know the outcome yet? I'm quite worried about this.

try not to worry.

This sounds like a form of coersive control and also grooming. Please speak to the bank and to the police. Tell the bank that you are going to inform the please and ask them if they will temporarily suspend his account . They have a duty of care towards their more vulnerable customers surely?

A camera sounds a good idea...unobtrusive, of course.

Any update yet , Busybee It would be nice to know if you have taken on board any of the advice from the posts on here and what the outcome was. People on this site do genuinely care, and get upset when they read about abuse.

Extremely worrying and definitely sounds like grooming. Do you have access to your father's bank to determine how much he is withdrawing each week? Is it possible she now knows his details and PIN numbers? Please contact the organisations above ASAP and get rid of her, change the locks and also inform the bank you are concerned.

I think someone had a good laugh yesterday.

I m beginning to think so too Urmstrongran
I think we should cease advice until Busybee6969 comes back to us

I think that some posters have been on a "Creative Writing" course when I read some threads , makes it interesting and instructive .

A quick search shows the OP asked for help with this problem a year ago - seems nothing has been done in all that time.

Riverwalk, thats awful. That poor old person has been left in the same sorry state for over a year?

Why don't the 69 ers deal with it?

Riverwalk how did you do a search the search facility has been down for days

www.gransnet.com/forums/aibu/1245145-dodgy-cleaner
busybee6969 has been posting for several years. This is the previous thread on the subject and it's apparent that nothing has changed in the interim, except possibly to have got worse.

Google BlueBelle.

Of course Riverwalk I forgot about googling names Yes I see what you mean Busybee6969 had exactly the same problem twelve months ago so as the poor old man seems in the same situation, cooking and paying and having the cleaner round each day for hours and worries about monies and cars etc all the advice given then has been of no use at all and not used so absolutely no point in going over and over it all again
Exactly the same problem 12 months apart

Bustbee6969 I agree with everything people have said. Send her packing. There must be other honest cleaners who would be glad of a job. She sounds very manipulative. It will be more difficult if she persuades him to change his locks or give her his bank details.

That was an unfortunate slip. Should have read busybee6969.

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Apologies if this has already been suggested but I would set up a hidden web cam to keep an eye on the cleaners behaviour. A friend of mine is a district nurse and many older people have them in their homes.

Just read the previous threads. Wow. Not sure why people would make this stuff up.

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How did your father find her? Workers who go into other people's homes to work and especially in care should be registered with the police. You could therefore quite legitimately ask the police if she is registered with them so there is no embarrassment. It is so difficult to find people who care but that does not mean to say that she is irreplaceable. What you describe is very worrying and you would be failing as a daughter if you did not do something about it.

What a worry for the OP who pours her heart out.

What do you think of the kind and sincere suggestions? Are any of them useful to you?