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Deni1963 Mon 27-May-19 12:24:33

After a miscarriage in January ( her 2nd), one before my grandaughter ( now 3), my daughter had a positive test today. Of course elated for her and her partner, and of course scared it will happen again.
Kind thoughts and positive vibes all goes smoothly this time 😊

morethan2 Mon 27-May-19 12:34:21

Fingers crossed and positive thoughts all goes well

HildaW Mon 27-May-19 12:37:43

Oh my goodness Denil963 how awful for your DD and perhaps even worse for you, trying to support her through it all. Just to wish you all the very best and say you must only be thinking of calming and beautiful things from now on.
Watching Chelsea on TV last week, I was reminded of something called 'Forest bathing' which is basically all about walking through woods and trees and gardens....evidently all that greenery is good for you. Its certainly helped me of late....so find a lovely wood and go for a walk with your lovely family. All the very best X

Jane10 Mon 27-May-19 12:49:29

Super positive vibes on their way to you!

cornergran Mon 27-May-19 12:52:38

Positive vibes and a hug from me. Try to stay positive, wishing you all well.

midgey Mon 27-May-19 13:01:24

Fingers crossed for all the family!

Nonnie Mon 27-May-19 13:03:56

It is more common than you might think and also quite common to go on and have more children, especially if it was an early miscarriage. Not sure they even give pregnant women who have miscarried any special treatment because it is quite common.

Wishing her all the best and you too. Sometimes a longer age gap can lead to an excellent sibling relationship. Please let us know how it goes

ginny Mon 27-May-19 14:38:58

Definitely sending good vibes. My youngest Dd has a 3 year old and had two miscarriages last year. One was a missed miscarriage discovered at her 13 week scan. She then had a cancer scare. Has now been given the all clear so our fingers are crossed.
Hope all goes well.

nanaK54 Mon 27-May-19 15:35:05

Kind thoughts and positive vibes from me

Buffybee Mon 27-May-19 15:56:18

Sending good wishes and positive thoughts 🌻

kittylester Mon 27-May-19 16:28:41

DD3 had 3 miscarriages before becoming pregnant with her 1st. She now has 3 children and no more miscarriages. Positive vibes to go with a positive experience.

callgirl1 Mon 27-May-19 16:48:10

Thoroughly positive vibes being sent Deni1963. All the best to the parents to be.

gillybob Mon 27-May-19 16:54:15

Sending you and your DD lots of positive vibes for a successful pregnancy and birth Deni1963 smile My 34 year old DD was told she would never have children and had a baby girl last year against all odds . Miracles can and do happen . x

Deni1963 Mon 27-May-19 17:10:46

Thank you all so much. It's terribly painful seeing her go through it, the first was 13 weeks at a dating scan, and then my grandaugher came 11 months later, then she lost very early in January.
I had 4 miscarriages after my 2nd and didn't conceive again, diagnosed with APA a blood clotting disorder 😓 so my daughter is painfully aware x

Starlady Mon 27-May-19 19:19:11

My heart goes out to you and DD! Hope she's working with doctors who specialize in these problems. Sending lots of positive vibes!

crazyH Mon 27-May-19 19:24:54

All the best for a positive outcome !!

Luckygirl Mon 27-May-19 20:01:55

Let us hope that all goes well this time. My DD went through similar and I know how hard it is to support them through this. xx

BlueSapphire Tue 28-May-19 08:32:49

Had two miscarriages (18 weeks and then 8 weeks) before I went on to have my two DCs, so can understand. Doctors kept saying it was very common, but that didn't help much at the time. Hope everything goes well.

Theoddbird Tue 28-May-19 10:09:56

Sending calming positive vibrations from the river. It is flowing so gently today. I am sure your daughter will be fine and will deliver a beautiful healthy son....

Nannyxthree Tue 28-May-19 10:21:17

All the best. She has a three year old so she knows she can do it and the child will keep her busy so there's less time available to worry.

BladeAnnie Tue 28-May-19 10:33:56

Sending you lots of love and positive vibes 😇

inishowen Tue 28-May-19 10:36:02

My daughter had five losses after her first child was born. It was sheer hell for her and us. Then she took time off work, learned to relax, and hey presto she got pregnant and it resulted in our gorgeous grandson, now two. Good luck to your daughter. I know how hard it can be.

GandT Tue 28-May-19 10:47:39

Our DD has had exactly the same experience as yours but is now in her 27th week of pregnancy. Fingers and toes crossed for your DD and ours.

maryhoffman37 Tue 28-May-19 11:51:54

Sending the positivest vibes!

pinkjj27 Tue 28-May-19 12:12:26

I went through this with my daughter she has one daughter but had a miscarriage with the 2nd. She took her miscarriage very badly we all did. Then she found out she was expecting again. Joy, I thought but rather than being joyful she was anxious, depressed and distressed for the whole pregnancy.
It was very hard she would ring me every day (sometimes five six times a day) convinced her bay had gone. I had to keep reassuring her, calming her down, supporting her. Some days she would scream at me telling me not to give her false hope and she knew her baby had gone.
I could never express to you how hard it was. So emotionally draining. If she didn’t suffer sickness one day, she would be adamant the baby had gone. If the baby stopped moving for a moment, she went into panic mode. I was terrified every time the phone range. I was also terrified that her distressed state would bring on a miscarriage.
Then on the night she went into have her baby My SIL rang me to say there was a problem I didn’t sleep I cried and waited but he didn’t call. He assumed I had gone to bed!!!! ( I was pacing the walls)
The positive vibe in this story is that my beautiful grandson was born I year ago, he is a lovely, happy handful and a real nanny’s boy. I am sure he is all the more precious for what we went through My daughter suffers with anxiety and I do not know if it’s like this for everyone but I do know a miscarriage doesn’t have to mean the next pregnancy will go the same way. I hope it all works out for you as a family. Do let us know.