friendship problem

She's probably grieving and self absorbed. Send her a quick "thinking of you" message and leave her to respond in her own time.

thanks for all your messages. My friend moved about 7 yrs ago, and is well settled in her town. I may just ask how she is and then leave it at that. It's just puzzling to me that she hasn't said anything.

Is there any chance that your email read like a round robbin? People dont generally reply to those

I would leave it if shes not contacted you then leave the ball in her court

I would think she's upset and feeling depressed about her mother. Some people retreat into their shell when they're upset. Other people like to talk things over.

She has moved and sometimes this ends contact with others. Also her mother's death may well cause her to feel the ties should just end. Give her a couple of weeks, send her another short message hoping she is well given her bereavement. If no response looks like she isn't interested in continuing contact.

"Don't make anyone a priority if, to them, you are only an option."
I followed this advice. However, I don't have many friends left now!

Hi Catlover, I'd ask her. I ask her if you have done something wrong to upset her because if you have you'd like a chance to apologise.
Keep writing her too, it's a conversation on paper or screen. She knows you're thinking of her and you're there for her, but also ask her what can I do for you?. With the best intentions people always say they're there for someone, but I've also found when I've asked what can I do for them, I get a response and am able to help that way.
Hope this helps. x

Oh dear. I think eveyone has a problem like this at some time. You've done all you can. She know's where you are. Stop punishing yourself wondering what you might have done.

Please give her more time. My lovely Mum died seven years ago after a short illness. Her death was absolutely awful and it hit me like a tonne of bricks. Looking back now I am sure I was suffering from depression. I couldn’t cope with anyone or anything and dropped off the face of the earth. I didn’t want to see anyone other than my husband, brothers and father. I was 44 at the time and the first in my friendship group to lose a parent. My friends really didn’t understand and I lost some friendships, some I really valued. I tried to reconnect with these friends and tried writing to explain (several times) but I guess they were offended and were not prepared to accept my explanation and apology. Please give your friend time and space, she may be really struggling