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London1948 Thu 12-Sept-19 07:42:07

I’m in Mallorca this week on holiday , but my husbands sisters son lives and family . Tried various attempts to contact and a result was a reply . But her other son no reply , and I think
Maybe it’s been to long for them to want to bother with any contact ? It’s been8yrs at least

London1948 Thu 12-Sept-19 15:51:40

Sorry to not explain but didn’t want to elaborate to much. I am the wife of the person who had passed away .and she was my husbands sister ! I did get a reply back today and will meet for a coffee , as I do know him but orheraquae would have suggested anymore than that as I haven’t been here for a long time .im not a user of other people’s situation and wouldn’t

BlueBelle Thu 12-Sept-19 15:56:50

I too didn’t understand your postLondon Is English your first language ?
So is the the story :
Your husband s sister s two sons (so your nephews) both live in Mallorca with there families You are there on holiday and after no contact for at least 8 years you try to contact them both, only one answers and the other doesn’t

What actually are you asking us ?
Did the one that replied meet with you ?
What are you wanting from them ?
Please come back and explain a bit more

aggie Thu 12-Sept-19 16:00:28

I had a cousin drop in unexpectedly , As OH was poorly and the carers came at the same time it was a bit tense , especially as cousin lifted the careplan and pointed out some changes could be made to meds ( he is a pharmacist ). After they left we worked out I hadn't seen him since the mid 90s ! so 25+ years
This year I had a call from another cousin , she explained she was near and could she call , this was a nice visit we reminisced about the missing 50 years and about our childhood , much nicer visit

Granless Thu 12-Sept-19 17:46:28

Yes, there are some very straight speaking Gransneters. Insensitive comes to mind.

Kacee Fri 13-Sept-19 16:53:50

I agree granless

Hetty58 Sat 14-Sept-19 01:46:07

London1948, I'd say just ignore the hostile and picky comments as the rest of the natives on here are friendly!

Callistemon Sat 14-Sept-19 02:59:03

Are you a new poster London1948?

If so, welcome to GN.

icanhandthemback Sat 14-Sept-19 12:58:34

London1948, I hope you enjoy your coffee with your nephew. These sorts of non-communication often happen and it takes two to tango so I don't think you should be pilloried.
We have a cousin who we hadn't seen or heard from for years but decided to attempt to visit whilst we down in Cornwall. We had a lovely afternoon with him where he was the perfect host and really friendly. When we left, there were hugs all round and then he said, "Thank you for coming. It was lovely to see you but could you wait another umpteen years before you visit again." I was really taken aback but my OH just laughed and explained it was why people tended not to contact him because he isn't a people person. My husband felt that at least he was being honest.
You have to learn to take the negative with the positive on GN. I think people could often be kinder but hey ho!

Tedber Sat 14-Sept-19 16:16:16

Don’t take offence OP hard knowing what you were asking? Gather one son has replied and other hasn’t? Could be for many reasons? Perhaps he doesn’t know who you are?

Enjoy the meet up with the one who has responded.

I love it when people make unexpected contact but some don’t. You have to respect that.

Survivor Tue 17-Sept-19 15:41:38

I agree with Rock&Roll5. You didn't go there to see them exclusively but while you're in the area, say hi, have fun. If no response, no loss, you tried.