im on their side.
you sound over-involved and controlling.
look at the emotive language you use. describing the DIL as controlling, saying you were a punch-bag, had to walk on egg shells etc. you were obviously annoying them during the pregnancy but they had more important things to cope with than spend energy trying to deal with you then. so they had to tolerate it. now the child is home, in their care, away from the hospital, their first concern is keeping him well. that is probably why they don't want anyone else kissing him, he may be extra vulnerable to infection. also he may have sensory issues, his skin may be hyper-sensitive thus making everyday contact painful.
they may seem over-protective to you, but that is their prerogative, they are the parents not you. also I know it can be very distressing to even have to mention the details of health problems that a dear LO has, so they may not have told you about all the issues.
anyway, whether or not its health related, they have the absolute right to parent him how they choose. they don't have to give reasons, or justify it. you talk about what you did in your fmily, kissing, playing etc. that is all irrelevant. you present it as the norm from which they are unreasonably deviating. that is the problem. your attitude, sense of entitlement is the problem. leave them alone. try to respect their decisions. you are heading for complete NC if you continue with this toxic dynamic.
I don't doubt you love the GS, but that's not enough. til he can choose and go where he likes, you can only see him with the permission of his parents. and if you never see him because you have alienated them with your attitude, then he will not be bothered to go see you when he is grown.
sorry to be blunt. but you sound rather thick skinned. your choice is stark; do you want to be in contact with GS or not.
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