Does anyone live in unsociable neighbourhood

Same here TrendyNannie small cul de sac, lived here 25 years, yet only speak to about 4 couples. They say morning if they can't pretend they haven't seen you, but it suits me, I'm the same!

Our end of the Avenue all know each other quite well and send cards at Christmas. Yes, we’ve had offers of help with shopping and dog walking, and most of the street turns out on a Thursday.

It's sociable here. We've got a thriving community association and have regular outings and even publish our own magazine.
It's me that isn't very sociable though, I only join in occasionally although I do help deliver the magazine.
And I always go outside on Thursdays and clap for our wonderful NHS.

We live in a close of 30 houses. Though we're both over 70, there's been no note through the door or anything else. A neighbour did offer if we needed anything, to let her know one evening during 'the clap'. Nothing for VE Day.

In normal times, we might say 'Hi' to two or three neighbours if we see them in passing or vice versa. Otherwise it doesn't feel terribly community spirited round here.

A pity as you'd think that a close would be - er - closer, IYCWIM. Good thing we don't actually need help at this time.

We used to live in a cul de sac and I enjoyed the friendships which are still continuing we though we moved 25 years ago! We live in a pleasant road but it's mainly working people so don't socialise hardly at all UNTIL the VE day celebration when many of us took our tables and chairs out the front and then wandered around talking to people - socially distanced of course - I'd never met before. Since then I've been invited to a neighbourhood online group and feel a lot happier than I have for ages

We live on quite a busy road, and have been here for 25years. Most people that live nearby are young proffesionals, none have young children at the moment, although there have been one or two arrive over the years. Its not a bad place to live, most people have a big morgauge topay and tend to work long hours, and spend a lot of time out, so we dont very often see them to speak to. DH knows a few people that he used to work with before he retired, that sometimes stand and chat to him for a few mins if they see him out on the front, but its not an area where people visit each others houses for a cuppa and a chat, I honestly think that they simply do not have the time for that kind of thing, and to be honest, I prefare it that way rather than being at the centre of things like I was in our previous house, chief nanny, nurse, marriage guidence councellor, and keeper of dark secrets! I was a psychiatric nurse by proffesion, but it was also common knowledge amoungst my neighbours, who thought that if my car was on my drive, I was open for a free session of problem solving of whatever was bothering them at the time!
Not good when I had only just finished my shift on the ward, and needed some peace and quiet!

We are lucky to live in a lovely supportive street. Next door are shielding and we’ve been doing shopping for them etc. We are running a “tab” for them as they have run out of cash. Last week we had local fish and chip delivery which we asked if they wanted too. Local support group collect prescriptions for them. All our street go out on a Thursday night for nhs clap. My neighbour opposite often asks if we need anything. We had a distant street gathering on VE Day where everyone kept the required distance but no music or anything.

Looks like I’m on my own here but that’s not unusual.
Our neighbours are not close by. I chat if I meet them.
I don’t go out to clap. I think it’s silly. It reminds me of North Korea .
I would help you if you asked me. I’m not unfriendly .
I used to stop my kids from trick or treating because I thought the neighbours up the road wouldn’t like it especially in the dark if they lived alone.
I must have been different when young because I remember the street party for the Jubilee when we lived at our former house.
No one has asked if we need help but our daughters shop for us.
I realised how odd I am when my daughter told me this morning that she had facetimed my friend . I haven’t for months but when we meet it will be like yesterday. I’m a funny old stick. ?
Anyone else relate to this ?

I know how you feel old woman. I live in a long rd so plenty of people around...but thursday night we only see about 4 people..which I just cant understand...I cant put my finger on why no one mingles ... i just find it a bit depressing..

I have never felt at home in the village I live in, over 40 years I have lived here in the same house.

It’s the type of village that unless you were born here you don’t belong.

Since lockdown I have been dabbling in a bit of family research and I have found out my great grandparents were actually born in the village. ?

I live on a development of houses that share communal gardens that roll down the River Thames where there are moorings, some have boats, not us Naturally we are all see each other far more in the summer. Our neighbours are pretty much super friendly, I've become more aware of this during the past 10 weeks or so and we've had joint efforts in sharing kachering , actually it's ours, but we've had a lot of quid pro quo with help in other areas. It's pretty international round my way and everyone, as far as I'm aware get on, one neighbour started a "Whatsapp" group for us all to share local information, mainly shopping related during the lockdown. A couple of burglaries also brought everyone together in a joint effort to warn others of any out of the ordinary comings and goings. All in all I'd say everyone here are quite pro active as far as mutual help is concerned and contrary to what people say, here in the south we do talk to each other!

I've only lived in this house for 1 year, having moved from a small village where I'd lived for over 40 years. I've been amazed at how friendly and welcoming neighbours here have been, particularly during lockdown. Everyone who passes says hello and usually stop for a brief chat. My immediate neighbours have gone above and beyond to make me welcome and have helped to make me feel more "at home" here. The wider neighbourhood have had garage, shed and loft clear outs and have left good, usable items such as toys, books, gardening equipment, plants, household stuff etc at the end of their drives for anyone to take, free of charge.

When I was a young mother we lived on a council estate. We didnt run in and out of each others houses but we all walked to school together to drop off and collect children. We had Tupperware and Elizabeth Alexander parties and they were great craic. If anyone was ill the others helped out by shopping, collecting schoolchildren etc. If it rained we brought each others washing in.
I wonder are any neighbourhoods still like that.

Sounds like you live in a nice place, Whitewave 2....where's that? That business of coming out to clap is a good indicator...I was the only one in our Close. Neighbours have helped but generally keep themselves to themselves but that sounds better than offensive people.

Couldn't agree with you more, Anne P1. I'd move there post haste! It's just too quiet here. I want my remaining years to be HAPPY. Help, please.

It's not a matter of having a superior attitude at all. Some people are gregarious and like to be surrounded by others. Other people prefer to keep to themselves.
I find your attitude rather narrow-minded, and intolerant of the differences between people.