I don't want to leave LO overnight yet

Its hard being a MIL. Theres no handbook and you dont always get it right ....
BUT.........I have 6 grandkids and thankfully have been very hands on with them from their earliest days. In these circumstances there is no way I would want/ have the little one stay over! And yes she is being unreasonable and acting the way she is to get her own way. And the poor dog. God forbid but if anything happened that would be the end of him too.
Stick to your guns. You know you are right. Let her get on with it. And it might teach her a lesson for the future too if you dont give in to her.

Why not try to keep the peace, with a suggestion that..... ...... The baby can stay over night so long as the dog is in kennels some miles away.....
That way baby is safe, your happier and grandma has got what she wants.
HOWEVER....... you might just find it difficult to agree on day and date to suit you both. ?

Not unreasonable at all. In fact I think it's lovely that you allow her to have him a while, take him on outings or whatever, and you are not saying 'No' you are saying 'Not just yet'.

The dog issue is perfectly understandable, and you would be a horrid Mother if you sent your child off not knowing if he would be safe. Stick, very nicely to your guns !

You are more than reasonable allowing them to take your baby on outings they need to build a relationship if your MIL takes it personally tough as for a sleep over the dog would make it a definite no for me

Your MIL certainly shouldn’t make you feel like you have to defend your own decisions! Perhaps to keep the peace suggest that they take your LO out for an afternoon or for a walk. I love dogs but I’d not be happy if it had already gone for your child, and I wouldn’t trust them to keep the two apart. Trust your gut feeling.

You absolutely don't have to leave your child overnight, now or any time soon. Even if the dog was out of the picture. I don't understand this insistence of grandparents to have their grandchild(ren) overnight as if it's some kind of right.

You are not being unreasonable - and what is the point of leaving a child in an environment where it is not going to be settled / learn to fear dogs and you are not going to relax

Its a different situation but I think it reinforces your concerns.
My DD and family were very friendly with another family, and had looked after their dog for a couple of weekends with no problem. Then my 2 GS ( 6 and 9 years old) were playing in the living room at the other family's house one day , when the dog bit my younger grandson's face. The mother of the other family was in the kitchen. It narrowly missed his eye. It wasn't a big bite so a visit to Alder Hey hospital in Liverpool , a good 40 miles from where they lived, and some stitches were all that was needed, plus slow recovery from the emotional impact on all the family.
AS far as my DD was concerned, the ( quite small) dog was friendly and obedient. If your inlaws possess a dog that needs to be muzzled, never in a million years would I leave a child anywhere near it even if I was there , and quite frankly, would tell them they could see their GS as much as they like at your house without the dog, but wouldn't even consider visiting them with child whilst the dog remains there.

You are not being unreasonable. The dog is a real issue for a start.

I didnt trust my MIL with my boys, she specifically used to go against my wishes and I eventually stopped them staying overnight. We fell out big time when she wanted to take them overseas and I said No. My Mum was completely different and I knew they were safe.

Trust your instincts and if you upset her, then so be it.

Your baby, your rules!
Stick firm and trust yourself hun.

As a mature person, even I would not enter the house where a dog that ever needs muzzling resides. To ever put a child in such jeopardy is unthinkable. I've even surprised myself by practising a few parental 'rules' that I don't actually agree with. Don't have a 'my house my rules' mindset. I have total respect for my S/SP parenting. I had my turn. The difference is that my lovely Mum was not slow to comment when she thought some of my rearing was dotty. Still makes me smile (though it probably didn't at the time!).

Absolutely not...I love Dogs but I would not leave a Child with one that has gone for him previously..I think your husband needs to make it clear but sadly some people would rather just blame the spouse...Dont be bullied ♡

You are certainly not being unreasonable, your MIL is totally out of order. The baby is still very young and not familiar with this woman, the dog is also a real problem. Stick to your guns - you are being very kind allowing her to take the baby out for an afternoon. Your baby comes first at all times. Grandparents have no right to make demands like this.

grandma has got what she wants - why should she have what she wants, when what she wants is wholly unreasonable?

I would never dream of demanding that I had a GC overnight - all I want is the best for them all, and if, on an occasion to suit the parents, it is helpful to them to do that then I do.

OP - please do not even leave your child there during the day as long as they still own this dog. Just not safe. Children's faces are at a dog-vulnerable level - imagine if your lovely child was scarred for life. It makes me shudder to think about.

In summary, there isn't one single person here, most, I imagine are grandparents themselves, who doesn't completely understand your point of view. The dog adds a whole added layer of worry quite aside as to whether or not your little boy would feel happy out of his home environment at this stage, you say he wouldn't and your judgement is more important than what your mother in law wants. Quite honestly, I loathe this sense of entitlement that washes over some when they become grandparents. Stick to your guns, if she doesn't like it, then tough!

You are doing the right thing, let her moan. At one, baby doesn't need to be with grandparents overnight. And the dog is worrying me too. Children are too precious

I used to have my 4 year old granddaughter stay over night quite often before lockdown but haven't had her since rules were relaxed (we are at different level here in the Channel Islands) She seems to have grown up at lot in the convening weeks and even though I have visited her at her new home a few times I don't yet feel ready to have her overnight. Maybe in a couple of weeks time

No you are not being unreasonable. The dog issue would make me not to have the child at their house without you or your husband at any time.

I totally agree with greenfinch.

i did read, true or false, but written by a vet that you should never leave a dog alone in the dame room as a baby as a babys cry it so high it does affect the dogs mood and can make some of them aggressive

The dog is the biggest problem here. No dog should be left, good natured or not, should be within reach of a toddler who might provoke it unintentionally - or intentionally. Any vet will tell you that. Children have to be much older to understand that dogs need to be handled with great care. I’m a dog lover and owner, so not biased against dogs.

Just to add my bit to what others are saying. The dog is definitely a problem. For that reason only I wouldn’t let the grandparents look after your child. I like dogs but small children and dogs don’t mix. TBH I wouldn’t even leave a child alone with a good natured dog.
My Dil doesn’t really want us to have 4 and 7 year olds for a sleepover. I don’t know why, and have never asked.
It’s not the end of the world and I would never fall out with her about it. We don’t have a dog or cat at the moment.

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You're not being unreasonable
Your little one needs to build up a relationship with the MIL before staying overnight

The dog is a major issue and the fact that the MIL puts a muzzle on it makes me think she KNOWS how dangerous it is. To be honest I wouldn't have them in the same room, let alone stay overnight in the house with it.

ps I have grandchildren and a dog

You are not being unreasonable. Perhaps if they didn’t have the dog it would be o.k but no way would I feel comfortable leaving a child with a dog like that I wouldn’t be able to sleep thinking what might happen

The very thought of leaving a one year old child with grandparents whom he hardly knows is absurd.

It isn't your fault that the epidemic has caused you to stay at home.

If he were my child, I would frankly tell my parents-in-law, or even better get your husband to tell them, that until and unless the dog is put down your son will never visit his grandparents without both his parents being there as well.

You are not being unreasonable, your parents-in-law are.