Nanny or Grandma

I’m Gran and love it.

Well, I don't blame your daughter. I would hate to be called Nanny. Can't you discuss it with your daughter and come to an agreement on a term that suits you both? What a thing to cry over when you have a lovely newborn to be happy about.

If you feel everyone has the right to be called what they want then technically you are grandparent/grandmother. Your DD will have to eventually make some reference to you in some form or other to your GD. Will be interesting what she uses. Oh look, it's Mummy's Mummy! Or you could use the same when speaking to your GD. See what your DDs response is to that. Have you even asked why your DD won't refer to you as Nanny?

When my sons girlfriend was pregnant he asked me what I wanted to be called I said Nanny , but when he was born my son told me that his GF mum was going to be nanny so I’d have to choose a different title , I was upset especially as I live so far away I felt even more left out . But I decide that I was nanny and when I see my GS I jibber away to him referring to myself as nanny and now my son calls me it too . I think emotions run high for everyone when a new child is born . Nothing stopping you calling yourself nanny when you chat to the baby . Maybe you need to sit down with your daughter explain how you feel and ask her why she’s being like this . She’s very young and we do tend to take things out on our nearest and dearest . Hope you get things sorted and just enjoy that little I flew of joy ?

How about grandmama? No kidding, was requested by sil's mother and agreed to and gcs all solemnly use it.

Bundle of joy

Ps, I am gran or granny as my own dear gran was called.

I was Nanny to five and Nanny plus my name to the other two who had another Nanny as they got older it became Nan and Im Nan to everyone now I personally (and it is personal) prefer Nan as Grandma or Gran, to my ears sounds quite posh and a bit old fashioned, but I expect to ‘grandmas‘ ears Nan sounds cheap and childish Each to our own
Now to your problem as your daughter has come up with no alternative I would call yourselfNan or Nanny or Nanna to the child from day one “ come to Nanny*” etc if your daughter makes a fuss take no notice you ve given her plenty of chances to give you an alternative See what the baby calls you when she talks but it’s really not worth making a fuss over at this stage and definitely nothing to cry over
Enjoy the little one and congratulations Nanny

My dil ALWAYS refers to us as Nanny/Grandad but ALWAYS as the third person....so it's ALWAYS through the go

When my son and dil got together we said call us by our names. But NO, We are mr/mrs NONAME

So 14 years on still referred to in the third person through the gs & gd.

Even when I took care of 8 month old gs 3 days a week, dil always said to gs 'say thank you to nan for having me' when leaving. ??

I'm truly past caring now....this disconnection through COVID19 and that they moved a little further away before Xmas, leaves me less frustrated and so much happier in myself. ??

I thought long and hard about what I wanted to be called. I ended up with an accidental adulteration of my choice because it was slightly unusual and misinterpreted. Do I care? Not a whit. It's relationships not names that matter. However, if Nanny is really important to you (and why not?) I would simply introduce it into the conversation you have with the baby. 'Hello (whoever). I'm Nanny'. The more often you say this, the more you will get used to it and subsequently your GD.. At some point your daughter may overhear you and accept but don't let the chat be directed at her. If it is important to you then stick to your guns. Softly softly approach sounds good and, after all, you have a wee while until GD starts to talk. Good luck and a hearty welcome to the world of GPs.

through the gc

If you want to be referred to as an old goat then that is your choice - but I agree with your daughter, Ask her what would she like you to be reffered as?

I think you are rightly upset at your daughter’s rudeness to you. They are infuriating. Ask her what she would like to call you to her child. She won’t say ‘nothing’.

Whats in a name ?

Whats wrong with Granny....good enough for Queen....So I am happy with it too.

Sometimes shortened to Gan gan which I used when littke girl

Why can’t you also be grandma and grandad? And if you’re all in the same room just add your name - ie grandma Jane, grandad Jack - that’s by far the best way as then your go grows up knowing that you are all her grandparents in equal right etc.

I'm Granny, which I love and chose, with my daughter's blessing (the same as my Mum was to her). The other two are both Nana and then their name. I can understand your upset, maybe discuss some alternatives with your daughter when things have settled down a bit. Personally, sorry - I have to say Nanny is not something I would ever chose to be called.

Congratulations on your beautiful granddaughter, that's the main joy to focus on.

I'm a step grandma and my GD calls me gama tracey as she has other grandparents does it matter what they call you as long as they are loved and safe

This won't help, but it might amuse you. My children named their grandmothers 'Granny Cat' and 'Granny Dog'.

Just ask your daughter what she would like to call you. There are no rules and hierarchies any more. Just discuss it with your daughter and her partner and agree on a name. It could be quite whimsical and not traditional. The most important thing is that you are a part of your little one's life.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

When my first grandchild was born my DIL’s mother collared me and asked if I wanted to be Granny or Grandma. I honestly didn’t mind (neither did she), but chose Grandma because I preferred my own grandma to my granny.

Underlying issues I would guess but I absolutely refused to be called Nanny, I am not a goat!

I think it's fairly obvious to people -- with half a brain-- that nanny isn't referring to a goat.

Every time you pick the baby up, you say “hello sweetheart, who’s Nanny’s best girl then!” Or words to that effect, she’ll soon learn!,,,

Proud to be a granny.