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maddyone Fri 04-Sep-20 16:06:45

I’ve just looked at my Yahoo page and I saw a news item claiming that a very well known high street shop which sells health products, make up, and sanitary products, have launched a new kind of sanitary pad that is washable which is very commendable in today’s over polluted world, but the wording on the box says, and I quote ‘For people who menstruate.......’ because the store didn’t wish to upset/offend anyone by using the word ‘women.’

I know we’ve had threads discussing transgender issues before, and I don’t have a problem at all with transgender people, but when I saw this I honestly thought that the world has gone mad. Is there really a problem with saying women menstruate? It’s a fact isn’t it? I’m perplexed to be honest. What do other Gransnetters think?

Iam64 Sun 06-Sep-20 21:23:00

Just to draw a line under the shared toilet issue, of course the women challenged the men. Often it was clear who the mucky man was and the next woman in would raise it. It’s rather presumptuous to put the blame back with the women.

Yes women are also perpetrators but in much smaller numbers and very often in cahoots or under the influence of men

trisher Sun 06-Sep-20 21:34:12

Chewbacca I have consistently said that ay legislation on toilets and changing facilities is unenforcable unless you are going to have someone on every facility asking to see people they view as doubtful if they can see their genitals. Which is why it is irrelevant if there are single sex or unisex toilets, it doesn't matter, people will continue to choose the one they identify with.
I have also said that risk assessments in women's refuges are in place. They are not legally enforceable. To make them such would require legal changes.
In making a blanket restriction on what you describe as "biological men" you leave transwomen waiting for surgery to be abused. Whatever you might think of them I wouldn't have thought you would wish to see that.

Starblaze Sun 06-Sep-20 21:37:28

Just honestly the message I'm getting.

I feel the issue of safe spaces and discrimination are seperate and this thread has reaffirmed that to me.

I can now see that unisex toilets may not be a great answer but I would rather risk occasional puddles than discrimination

Chewbacca Sun 06-Sep-20 21:57:02

You're absolutely right trisher, I would wish no harm to any one going through the physical, mental and emotional torture of transitioning from, or to, either sex. But I am, first and foremost, a grandmother to granddaughters, and a feminist and the rights to safety and protection for all women is my paramount concern. I vehemently feel that women have been expected to accommodate, acquiesce and compromise, for far too long, where their safety is at risk. And the risks have been, and continue to be, from men.

This discussion originally began about the ommision of the word women from feminine hygiene products and has morphed into transgender issues!
I genuinely appreciate having had this discussion with you trisher, you're a poster that, whilst I don't always agree with you, I very much respect you because your posts are well resesrched and well balanced and you never sink to name calling or cheap sideways jibes to get your opinions and views across. moon

trisher Sun 06-Sep-20 22:43:11

Thankyou for that Chewbacca I too respect your views and I can see exactly where you are coming from. It's not a subject I would have even imagined discussing years ago, it is something I am continually learning about. One thing I would recommend is watching the BBC i-player series "Pose" it gives an insight into the culture of trans genderism and homosexuals in New York at a time when Aids was devastating the community. Night night!

WearingLadiesThings Sun 06-Sep-20 23:06:23

Scuse the user name, I need a sense of humour in life. I wanted to have my say. I am a woman, a sister, a friend, a feminist and I once had the appearance of a man. I doubt anyone here knows what it feels like to be me. I know that I am me and I know I am a woman. I have been here, there and everywhere without anyone knowing because I am a woman. You won't ever look at me and see a man because I am a woman. Everywhere I go I get the same treatment as any other woman because I am a woman. All the nasty comments on here about me and the double standards and trans phobia don't change me being a woman. I've never hurt anyone and I am a woman. I'm going to blow this off now so I don't create a row and never look at it again because I am a woman. Don't ever say you accept the T in LGBTQ while you stand about saying nothing against people who don't want me as a woman.

Urmstongran Sun 06-Sep-20 23:14:12

I totally respect your need just to be ‘you’ WLT and for acceptance.

As far as I’m concerned, you have it. Even though you don’t need anyone’s blessing - and why should you?

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Starblaze Sun 06-Sep-20 23:22:46

I'm so sorry Wearingladiesthings if I got anything wrong or didn't say enough.

I don't want to to make enemies or alienate people and I'm not used to feeling safe to engage in this type of discussion so I'm not very good at it.

I do want to send the message though that I accept you. I'm glad you're you.

Chewbacca Sun 06-Sep-20 23:30:05

You're a new poster wearingladiesthings? Welcome if you are. You write so emotively; I already feel as though I know you.

petunia Mon 07-Sep-20 08:04:08

Good morning. What an interesting thread this is and how quickly the initial post deviates.

On the one hand there is the individual who genuinely feels that they are in the wrong body. One would generally feel some sympathy with this individual as their life must be very difficult. Trisher has highlighted this earlier.

On the other hand politics and activism has hijacked the trans movement and made trans activism into something aggressive and almost a cult. Biological women who protest are shouted down, no plat formed, attacked, threatened with the law and generally made to feel that they are the aggressor and a bigot.

Even some forms of feminism seem for have fallen under the spell. In my own town the Women's Centre proudly welcomes trans women into every aspect of the centres activities. I feel that women are loosing their way, loosing their privacy, loosing their necessary protections, loosing their ability to just say No.

Anyway, for those on Facebook there is a site which looks at crimes and incidents committed by trans women(biological men). The site is called “This never happens”. People are invited to send in reports from their local area of incidents. Recently a member collated all the incidents into one post. It is far to long to post here but if anyone is interested in the “rare” cases of biological women being attacked by transwomen, it is there to look at. Look for the post by Valentina Medici

Sobering information. Worth a look at if you have a few minutes.

Starblaze Mon 07-Sep-20 08:34:50

petunia I really don't understand how that helps or proves anything. We can't discriminate against the any for the actions of a few.

I can direct you to stories of hundreds of thousands abusive mums (like mine) and abusive grandmothers (like mine). Should I not love women as a result and allow them into my life? Because I know so many wonderful women and I seperate good people from abusive people. So does Safeguarding.

Iam64 Mon 07-Sep-20 09:13:01

Thanks Petunia. While its true that we can't discriminate about the many because of the actions of a few, we do need to accept that some people present a danger to others. Dismissing genuine concerns, minimising or blaming poor safeguarding for the criminal actions of people doesn't help anyone either.

Starblaze Mon 07-Sep-20 09:33:26

I think Wearingladiesthings has reminded me that this is not a matter of opinion (I am also guilty here) which maybe we should save for whether or not we like someone's dress. This is a matter of morality.

I think I will use the unfollow thread function to avoid further upset.

petunia Mon 07-Sep-20 09:40:55

Thank you iam64. Unfortunately we are living through times that encourage a new way of thinking without considering the impact on existing laws and customs. It could well be the way forward but while every question or concern is minimised or dismissed, a large section of society will be expected to move over and shut up.
So while I may feel relaxed about Trisher's trans girl sharing the women's toilets, I may not feel quite so relaxed about Karen White in the next cubicle. The problem is, how do you tell the difference?

Iam64 Mon 07-Sep-20 10:01:37

I'm late here in responding to trisher's question about her young trans woman and the criminal justice system. When I lived / worked in a Probation hostel in the distant past, we had a number of similar people bailed to us, rather than imprisoned. I do hope that's what would happen with the young person trisher referred to.
I don't dismiss the huge pressures on people, especially young people who are confused/uncertain about their sexuality, especially if they have long wondered if they should have been born the other gender. What we can't dismiss is the number of young people seeking help who have an existing diagnosis of autism.

trisher Mon 07-Sep-20 10:41:17

WearingLadiesThings I hope you are not too upset by this thread. We sometimes forget that this is not an abstract argument but about real people's lives. Live your life safely and joyously knowing you are embraced by women who recognise feminism as a movement which accepts and supports all. Thank you for posting. I can't imagine what your life has been like. It was so brave of you to post on here.