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Anxious time, what to do?

(68 Posts)
bikergran Sat 24-Oct-20 09:27:05

Do what you heart tells you.

Iam64 Sat 24-Oct-20 08:58:57

Don't hesitate, 'welfare' needs prioritise and I can't imagine anyone criticising you for telling your brother to come and stay with you.
I'm not sure about Scottish prisons but in England there would be both a Probation Officer and Wing Governor in the prison, with responsibility for welfare issues. In your brother's place, I'd telephone and follow that up with a letter expressing my concerns.

Jane10 Sat 24-Oct-20 08:49:02

Your poor brother. What an awful situation for him. If he's physically well why not let him come for a wee break. It would give him a chance to have a think about what to do and to talk it over with you.
He must be dreading the possibility of his son being released and wanting to come home to him. He'll also be feeling guilty that he doesn't want him home. I'm sure he'll have good reason not to want this. Just because he's his son doesn't necessarily make him a pleasant or even safe person to live with. The poor man. Literally, give him a break!

rafichagran Sat 24-Oct-20 08:38:20

One other household.

rafichagran Sat 24-Oct-20 08:37:37

The son is in her bubble, Hetty stated you cannot be in two bubbles.
I thought the poster made it quite clear her son was in her bubble 30 miles away. She is tier 3 and you can only mix with one household. The poster asked for advice on what she should do.

BlueBelle Sat 24-Oct-20 08:18:20

Hetty and rafia I think you might have the wrong end of the stick the poster doesn’t have a son involved In this situation

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sat 24-Oct-20 08:18:08

Your poor brother sounds very troubled so surely some flexibility is in order? I know rules are rules and all that but let's show some humanity. Let him stay as for long as he needs.

rafichagran Sat 24-Oct-20 08:09:56

Let your brother stay, his welfare seems to be a great concern. Also I would not ask your son to stay away, I would talk to him and see what he thinks. As someone said upthread the rules are not set in stone.
Also if your Brothers son is dangerous, your brothers safety comes first, if he feels stressed or in danger, he should not let his son stay with him.

vegansrock Sat 24-Oct-20 08:08:32

Yes there are exemptions for emergencies and care for a vulnerable person.

MaggieTulliver Sat 24-Oct-20 07:51:43

Absolutely let your poor brother stay with you, I would do the same in a heartbeat. I hope things improve for your family.

Hetty58 Fri 23-Oct-20 23:22:51

You can't be in two different bubbles, so need to tell your son to stay away.

lemongrove Fri 23-Oct-20 23:16:36

I agree with the other posters.
A worrying situation for your brother, but a rotten time for your nephew too, in prison and having mental health problems.Where and who can he turn to if not his own Father.

BlueBelle Fri 23-Oct-20 23:09:52

Yours and his mental health is important so I would say definitely let him come to stay and I hope the situation improves for you all
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M0nica Fri 23-Oct-20 23:07:33

if you do not have a bubble, and he doesn't either, then become a bubble and whatever way you go, you are allowed to share a household. There is no limit on how far apart bubbles are. We are in a bubble wth DD, who lives nearly 100 miles away. She is with us now, staying for a long weekend.

vampirequeen Fri 23-Oct-20 19:24:12

Let your brother come to stay with you. The rules are not set in stone. His needs are greater.

Riverwalk Fri 23-Oct-20 11:34:50

I'm sorry your brother and his son are having a difficult time.

As far as I'm aware, this would count as a welfare issue throughout the UK and it would be in order for you to allow your brother to stay, if you think his mental health is at stake.

hollysteers Fri 23-Oct-20 11:29:51

I live alone, bubbled with my son 30 miles away who I see infrequently.

hollysteers Fri 23-Oct-20 11:18:15

My single younger brother in Scotland is going through a very bad time, his son is in prison, has mental issues and is on the phone to him every day affecting his health and well-being. He has a couple of trials coming up and my brother dreads him being let out next year sometime, but nothing is certain. He is a rather dangerous individual sadly and wants to return to live with my brother (his mother is dead) which would be a disaster.
My brother would like to stay with me for a break for a few days as he does in normal circumstances as we are very close, but I am in Level 3 and not sure what to do. I would love to give him a much needed break, I have plenty of space to keep our distance. Would this situation fall into vital care or similar?