I think your long time ill health, plus getting covid, isnt helping . There is fear of covid , and the daughter may fear getting it. Do you have long covid?
If so, I think there is a need for compassion for you Taffy. Could your daughter stay in touch by phone or internet. It must be horrible having so many ill health problems and going into lockdown again will not bring your operation any closer. Stay calm, listen to music, so your H comments fall on deaf ears. Until you can sort his abuse of you. I just had an operation, was worried about catching MRSA or Covid. I came home as soon as I could. I have tremendous pain, but never tell family. I would be dumped in a Care Home. Stay strong. Do not worry about things that have not happened yet. Your anxiety and stress is there because the operation is the focus of your worry. My mother had cataracts removed, and as we spaced it out over 6 months so that she could cope. She had dementia, and curing one eye to allow her to see her garden was a great success. Second eye done months later. She had 2 tablets for sedation each time and sailed through the ops without a care. Ask for what you want when the time comes. Sort H out at later date with two good eyes. Take care