Toddler Only Wants To Wee In Garden

How old is he?

My 3 year old GS decided he would start peeing out of the back door! I was horrified and the elderly man next door (if he had seen this, which I'm sure he must have) would have been livid. In addition, he would drop his pants wherever he was for a wee.

Both DD & I talked to GS about it and about germs (which he seems to have grasped). He's much better now, not just 'going' anywhere. It's taken us both to reinforce it tho and to keep at it.

I'm uneasy about late night discussions on these kind of subjects.

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He is 3. I apologise for the late posting. I could delete and repost in the morning but the problem would be the same!

As a mother of 3 sons and grandma to 5 grandsons I rather fancy myself as an expert on this.
My answer:
Get the fathers to wee etc in the loo and let the boys watch!
Works a great.

Works a treat! Blooming autocorrect.

Thank you, Bluebell. I shall enquire as to whether they've tried this. I was too 'proper' to ask but now I can open with: "One of the grans says...."
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My wee grandboy likes to pee in a jar ! He's frightened of the toilet so I leave a jar out - he also likes to pee outside ! They're all delightfully different aren't they ?

Do they have a dog or cat which ‘go’ outdoors? Making him think this is where you should go?

Do not worry about posting night/day or whenever, I m sure MissA was joking
I always found old fashioned star charts worked wonders but I also agree with Bluebellwould doing it with the dad is a good one
Now you’re muddled Bluebelle and bluebellwould good job we re agreeing

I never allowed this behaviour in the garden or wherever . It was something we never did.

We had friends round one hot summer day and their 2 boys were cavorting about, relieving themselves in the grid. My sons looked on in horror!

Put a ping pong ball in the loo. Little boys love to aim for it.

tiredoldwoman

My wee grandboy likes to pee in a jar ! He's frightened of the toilet so I leave a jar out - he also likes to pee outside ! They're all delightfully different aren't they ?

That is going to go down well as an adult!!! Children can be encouraged and the toilet can be shown to be a good place for peeing in. For goodness sake too much let him does as he likes. It seems only nowadays children are allowed to be indulged with whatever takes their fancy, and never shown or encouraged to do things properly. Laziness on the part of the adults looking after them. As someone said the other day, oh she’s still in nappies, at 4, potty training is too hard. You are not doing the child any favours here.

Naninka

My daughter-in-law is becoming very anxious about her son (my DGS) because he won't use the potty or toilet. However, he is completely dry, including nights.
So where does he wee? In their garden, in my garden, behind a bush, anywhere outdoors.
He holds a number 2 for his own garden but does likes to see it flushed down the loo by his mummy or daddy.
We have tried everything we can think of!
It's so frustrating and is holding him back from us taking him places like soft play, farm park, etc.
Any suggestions, oh wise ones?
I'm particularly interested to know if anyone else has experienced this with a toddler and how they overcame it.

No never had any problems with son or daughters peeing in the toilet, or potty, accidents yes, otherwise always encouraged and shown how to use the toilet. The water coming down to flush was always a waterfall, children can be taught with patience, and games, trying to find out why he won’t use the loo may be helpful.

They used to make targets you could put in the loo, stuck on. That might be an incentive. I would say that they need to discourage this and give Incentives for him to use the loo. As he does poos outside too then it's rather unsavoury tbh. I wonder what happens at nursery/pre-school? Is he using the toilet there?

I recall a thread on this very subject only a short time ago strangely.

Lock the doors to the garden.
After this child has urinated on the carpets a few times I expect his mother will discover ways of persuading him use the lavatory.

Some children enjoy the al fresco aspect of this, others absolutely hate the idea, children are just different.
They need to be taught it’s just for emergencies though, otherwise they must use the toilet.Lazy parenting otherwise.

As a temporary measure, tell him that you have just cleaned the garden today and don't want it to get smelly. Put his potty outside to use, where the neighbours can't see it, and get him to bring it inside to empty it into the toilet and flush it down. Meanwhile, get an adult male relation to let him watch them use the loo standing. Then combine the two lessons and suggest doing it straight down the toilet and missing out the potty altogether.

If you and his mother both work on this, you will succeed.

There's a thread going on where people are questioning why I don't think children should automatically get invited to weddings. I think I'm vindicated.

I second the idea of the target stuck to the pan. Has something happened to make him not like the toilet. Might be worth seeing if he will use the potty outside. That might give an idea of where the issue lies.

Lolz at Alegrias-I hear you

Put a ping pong ball in the loo and get him to take aim, offer a prize when he hits it!
For no 2 get a toilet flush that plays a fanfare when he presses the button.

Unfortunately for us one of our lovely small GS decided the emergency was in the middle of the lawn at a NT property! I agree with accompanying Dad to the loo and the target sounds a fun idea.

Spot on Bluebellwould.
I had the same with one of my sons and dh did exactly that,worked a treat.