How would you react

I know, without question, that my husband would never, ever, say anything like that out loud (even if he thought it) but if he did, I would be utterly ashamed of him.

I absolutely would not think it was amusing

If it is indeed true then your DH is pathetic. The car salesman is sexist and if I was the girl then I would complain about sexual harassment in the workplace. Clearly the sale of the car was more important than any of these disgusting comments or how the girl felt. Is it still 1960?

I'd of got up and left if my husband was so vulgar. He obviously has no respect for you, and if I was the sales lady I'd of asked him to stop behaving like a dirty old man, which is what he is, if he acts like that in front of you I can only imagine how he behaves when out alone.

I think that your husband is despicable - I have known men to be put on disciplinary action for such comments!

Tactless husband - but do you really think he was completely oblivious to your looks etc when he met you? Not important really.

“31/08/2021 20:43 Sago

Did you find Bernard Manning and Benny Hill funny?

Perhaps you thought Jimmy Saville was just a bit too “ handsy”

You are either a troll or very stupid…. It’s 2021 for crying out loud.”

Bit rude!!!

Pressed send too soon, I meant your answer was a bit rude

I would march him back to the car sales room to apologise to both Saleswoman and Salesman.

Perhaps he is losing his social filter where instead of just thinking things, he opens his mouth!!!!

I would have said to my husband, "Show some respect, please!" I think he disrespected both you and the saleswoman but I wouldn't have called this sexual abuse. It is inappropriate and may make someone feel uncomfortable but calling it abuse is a step too far. As someone who has suffered abuse, it is nowhere near and diminishes real abuse by bandying the word around. That said, I think we all have to call this behaviour out or things will never change. Maybe by embarrassing the offender, they will understand how embarrassing this is for most women.

I would have been both embarrassed and angry. Not only was it deeply sexist towards the young woman but also insulting and humiliating to you as his wife.
This sort of behaviour doesn’t come out of nowhere and there must have been other occasions when he has leered at other women or made comments about them.
When he’s at work does he behave like this? Hasn’t he been on any kind of training?
Time to reflect - will he get better or worse as he ages? Do you want to continue to be so grossly disrespected as you grow older?
Time to move on from the old dinosaur I’d say!

If this is true I would have apologised to the saleswoman, hit OH round the head with my handbag and walked off. Seriously, I can imagine my father behaving like this in the 60s. He was a very good looking man and, as they say, certainly had an eye for ladies!

Calistemon- yes,i thought we on here were 'Ladies'?

I would have certainly have said something there and then-it would have been an automatic reaction, I’m afraid. Something similar happened once when my husband and I were served by a very pretty young waitress. He complimented her long, blonde hair etc etc. I blurted out the old nugget of wisdom ‘There’s no fool like an old fool!’ and winked at the young lady, adding ‘can’t take him anywhere!’ Defused an awkward situation there and then and paved the way for a good explosion on my part later. Probably explains why he is my ex-husband now though….(thank heavens!).

MawBe

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Thanks Maw!
What an unexpected treat that was!

I would have apologised profusely to the young woman, and left. I can’t imagine my husband ever behaving like this...unless he was ill, in which case, I would have explained that.

I don’t think my marriage to him would have lasted once he started this type of behaviour. Presumably he hasn’t always been like it?

Yes.I'd have been embarrassed and annoyed.Did he think it, but not thought he had actually said it out loud.??

I’m interested thatOP started by saying that she thought maybe I should think this funny

Makes me wonder how outraged she really was?

Maw, I think that maybe she wanted us to play it down for her; tell her that she was overreacting.
Whereas we’ve told her exactly what she didn’t want to hear, ie the her husband is an a***hole.

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

I would have divorced him.

Nannan2

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

Rude.

Nannan2

Suziemarie- "I'd HAVE" not "of"

Glad you said that ! GN is littered with “would of/could of/should of”??

Well lady all I can say is ‘you picked him’!

I would have been both angry and embarrassed and would have said you are old enough to be her grandad you perv.
I’m so pleased my husband isn’t like that

I would not be married to someone like this - what a total lack of respect for his wife