How would you react

Your husband sounds very insensitive and ignorant, you must have felt like taking the car home and making him walk! I hope he saw how offensive his comments were & apologised? If not, I’m sure an opportunity will come along for you to show him how it feels. ? Good luck.

If your husband is 61 and only started to do this recently, as your post suggests, like a few others it came to me instantly that it could be a behaviour change due to a health issue. I would tell him that what he said was inappropriate and keep an eye on him for other symptoms.

For a start my H would never had said such a thing and if he did I would have called him out on it in front of the whole showroom. Cringe worthy.

That was very disrespectful to you his wife, it was disrespectful towards the young women, no one wants to spoken to like that in the work place it also placed the salesman in a dreadful position, should he defend his colleague loose a sale and maybe get reprimanded, or sit quietly and re-enforce the myth that it's OK to speak to anyone in such a disrespectful way, pretty disgusting behaviour all round

He could be ill there are several illnesses were lack of inabition can be an early symptom. If this is just recent behaviour might be a help to have checkup.

A sharp kick under the table haha!

SeaNain
When we gals observe a 'drop dead dish' of guy. a wowee who let you escape ? is usually enough to get a reaction that two can play at that game.

I wonder how such men would react if their wives behaved in a similar fashion when an attractive young man came into view?

Imagine if the '20 something' had been a good looking man and the wife had uttered "cor... he can sell me a car anytime".

I'm pretty sure the salesman would have been equally embarrassed and the husband less than impressed.

... and grans on here would have said grow up and act your age... so I think that is what the husband of the OP needs to do.

The 2o-something is young enough to be his daughter. She's an employee doing a job, not a plaything, decoration or ornament for his or any other man's pleasure.

If it were me, I'd be quite brutal and ask the husband - how would you feel if I illuminated the fact that you're old and past it by going all ga ga over an attractive young man?

If my other half behaved like that, especially on more than one occasion, we'd be living in the same house, but not as partners... he'd be looking after himself and I'd be doing my own thing.

What he did was to show huge disrespect to his wife. But he'll never acknowledge it.

Really???

Another of the totally ridiculous threads we have atm. It's not worth replying.

He'd have had a rollicking least. It would never happen to me though as I've not married a misogynist. If you have daughters ask how he'd like it if an old man commented like this to her.

This sort of comment was normal, back in the 1970s. Think your old man had a senior moment, he's probably embarrassed as well. No idea about the salesperson, depends on what sort of commission on sales she gets.

On a recent episode of The Chase “The Governess”, who must be in her 50s at least, told one of the male celebrity contestants that she would like to lick him all over.
This was met with claps, cheers and much hilarity.
Double standards?

Its crass, demeaning and sexist.
If my partner/husband had said that I would have made it very clear, at the time, his behaviour was disgusting and insist he apologise to the lady in question.
Then make him read up about appropriate behaviour and language so he never does it again.

Not acceptable.
My husband, in his 70's , used to pop to the local shop and told me he asked for a receipt 'to prove to his wife where he'd been'.
It wasn't until we shopped together and he said 'I don't need a receipt today, 'because she's here with me', to the young shop assistant that I had to tell him, after we'd left - 'Don't ever do that again, you embarrassed me, you embarrassed her, and most of all you were an embarrassment to yourself.
It's never happened since.

GreenGran78

On a recent episode of The Chase “The Governess”, who must be in her 50s at least, told one of the male celebrity contestants that she would like to lick him all over.
This was met with claps, cheers and much hilarity.
Double standards?

Yes. How revolting.

I think your husband has no respect for you, and I wonder what he would have done if you had behaved that way.

He is old enough to be her grandad and a bit young to be thinking it's still acceptable.
If it is really something new he has started - acting like a leering old pervert - look for other symptoms.

I think the car sales man should have said can we have some respect for the staff working here. Even if it meant losing a sale.

I know a man like that, he's 70, I find it creepy. If he had a daughter that age I'm sure he'd be fuming if someone spoke to her like that....

I would roll my eyes while looking at the salesman!

I do agree with Jess - this used to be common in the 60’s/70’s. I’m afraid I can’t get too worked up about it- however, I don’t think my husband would say anything like this- even if he thought it - he’s always liked and appreciated women - I do find that there is far too much outrage about practically everything these days - perhaps because there are so many avenues available to us to express opinions?

Distasteful

I would have been shocked then furious. Just too rude to believe it actually happened. I may have said "pass me the car keys", left him open mouthed and driven home alone. The walk would have given him plenty of thinking time.....

Apologies for being so blunt.

I am positive DH or sons would not make a comment like that. If they did they would be told not to be so rude for all to hear.

I would be mortified.
There a few things as bad as lecherous old men in my book. Ugh!
He would have paid dearly for that behaviour.

I would be very angry and embarrassed at this. I was wondering if an older woman started getting flirty with a young salesman, would this attract less criticism? I have seen this sort of thing done and heard colleagues make ogling remarks about young, male members of staff. I think such behaviours from either sex are sexist and entirely reprehensible.