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How judgmental are you about people.

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kittylester Sun 07-Nov-21 19:05:55

Gransnet seems to be a very judgmental place today - from dissing people's choice of daily paper to 'guessing' why someone disliked a couple on Strictly.

I imagine that most people on here would see themselves as being very tolerant but does that tolerance only stretch to people who think in a similar way?

Kali2 Sun 07-Nov-21 19:49:21

This thread was chosen to 'judge' others, nothing else. Pot... kettle, truly.

Urmstongran Sun 07-Nov-21 19:51:32

Not judgemental at all Kali2.
Factual - to say ‘the usual suspects’ because quite simply, that’s what it is.
Plain as the nose on your face.

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 19:52:50

Yes, I agree kittylester

Some posters seem to be very intolerant of the views of others lately.

Calmlocket Sun 07-Nov-21 19:54:18

I feel a storm brewing!!!

MissAdventure Sun 07-Nov-21 19:54:55

I'm fairly judgemental I think.
I'm a bit of a black and white thinker.

PollyTickle Sun 07-Nov-21 19:56:02

I enjoy hearing the opinions of others, even some extreme ones.
I do object to opinion being expressed as fact particularly the sort that instills fear or panic in others.

Redhead56 Sun 07-Nov-21 19:56:36

I can be quite opinionated on certain issues no doubt about that. However I don’t just have tolerance towards people of the same opinion as me. We all have free will unless controlled by others so everyone’s opinion is different based on their own life experience.

Scones Sun 07-Nov-21 19:58:39

I genuinely thought that asking questions of other posters in order to improve one's understanding of different opinions was not only the point of Gransnet, but one of the ways to inform oneself generally in life.

All opinions are valid, but if we voice them we invite question and discussion and also present people with the opportunity to agree, disagree or not give a damn.

lemongrove Sun 07-Nov-21 20:00:28

I wonder what the ‘correct’ newspapers are? One which concurs with the views of a poster, and thus makes all other newspapers and the readers of them beyond the pale I suppose.
Maybe if you are a person who rushes to judge others this thread may make you take a step back.

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 20:01:28

PollyTickle

I enjoy hearing the opinions of others, even some extreme ones.
I do object to opinion being expressed as fact particularly the sort that instills fear or panic in others.

We had a friend who would throw a metaphorical grenade into a group then sit back and wait for the fallout.

He died before the internet really got going but I bet he'd have enjoyed doing just that online.
We do miss him!

Smileless2012 Sun 07-Nov-21 20:02:30

Everyone's entitled to their opinion. It isn't necessary to be rude because someone's opinion differs to your own and it only weakens your argument if you are.

Kali2 Sun 07-Nov-21 20:03:01

Urmstongran

Not judgemental at all Kali2.
Factual - to say ‘the usual suspects’ because quite simply, that’s what it is.
Plain as the nose on your face.

Massively judgemental- 100%.

Soem of us try to argue the opinion given- say, recently on possible consequences or triggering art 16. Your comment is totally playing the person/s.

You won't, or can't see the difference, unfortunately.

kircubbin2000 Sun 07-Nov-21 20:03:15

I thought you meant it in a wider sense. For example I would judge a woman in the park who is on the phone and letting her kids run riot or her dog pooing and ignoring it. I would probably judge it would not be wise to confront her.
I know a couple of decent people who buy the Sun and the Mail for sports and puzzles. I don't assume they are racists.

JaneJudge Sun 07-Nov-21 20:05:22

I hope this thread hasn't been started because I accused someone of being Nadine

Aveline Sun 07-Nov-21 20:05:54

I'm used to being judged by this one. You lot are nothing compared to him.
(sorry for being facetious!)

AGAA4 Sun 07-Nov-21 20:06:16

I think it is important to have other people's views on things. That's one of the reasons I like GN as we are all very different on here.
I have learned a lot by reading opinions of other GNs. I don't always agree but it can be thought provoking to get other ideas.

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 20:06:29

Nadine who?

Is Nadine she, he or they?

JaneJudge Sun 07-Nov-21 20:07:13

Calistemon

Nadine who?

Is Nadine she, he or they?

it's keyser soze

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 20:08:05

Aveline

I'm used to being judged by this one. You lot are nothing compared to him.
(sorry for being facetious!)

Oh, he's very scary!

He's not going to stand for any nonsense ?

rafichagran Sun 07-Nov-21 20:08:39

You should be able to express your own opinion without people questioning you in a aggressive way.

lemongrove Sun 07-Nov-21 20:08:46

Haha, is that your own cat Aveline ? What a bruiser!
Looks as if he is saying ‘Come on man, you cannot be serious!’ ?

Urmstongran Sun 07-Nov-21 20:08:52

That made me chuckle Aveline!
Such a judgemental stare.
?

kittylester Sun 07-Nov-21 20:09:01

Kali2

This thread was chosen to 'judge' others, nothing else. Pot... kettle, truly.

I am offended that you should post that Kali.

I am shocked at the amount of intolerance shown by some people of gn. It seems to be very much in evidence lately. But, i think it not something you can accuse me of. I am only intolerant of intolerance.

Josianne Sun 07-Nov-21 20:10:41

Calistemon

Yes, I agree kittylester

Some posters seem to be very intolerant of the views of others lately.

As an example,
I was so upset only a day or so ago about a pile on that I asked GNHQ to have ALL my comments on a thread deleted.
I was wrongly judged for an innocent follow on comment about the OP's spelling, (ok it was a serious thread), when I was the one actually providing an explantation for other posters. I was being judged as being uncaring and insensitive which is totally wrong.
I am not at all judgmental. I am easy going and unfussy but obviously there are those who like to pick posts apart and I guess that is just how they are.
However, there was a recent delightful thread about people's home towns which whether north or south, coastal or inner city, attracted no judgmental comments at all, in what could have been a potentially judgmental discussion.
I'm not sure about the reference to the Strictly comment though yes, it was very much moving away from the subject of dance itself.

Calistemon Sun 07-Nov-21 20:12:20

Kali2

This thread was chosen to 'judge' others, nothing else. Pot... kettle, truly.

That's not very kind, Kali2

I've never known kittylester to be judgemental about others and their posts.

I assume she is finding the intolerance on GN recently rather bewildering and upsetting.