Grandson has used my card for games….?‍♀️

Just laugh at them Shinamae! They always have their knickers in a twist!

VioletSky

Why is worrying about children's safety on the internet so terrible?

It wasn't children's safety on the internet, it was the safety of Granny's credit card which is the subject of the thread, although theoretically one could lead to the other.

I think I did suggest using parental controls on the iPad

I dont think the subject under discussion matters. It could be anything, as its just a smoke screen for having a pop at Grans.

Exactly that.

I posted this awhile ago as the lady I answered had asked how I felt about being “told off” on the forum…(don’t actually remember what that “of course not”is for but anyway I still feel the same now so I’m going to post it again..?

I would add now that of course not all admonishers have had the benefit of a very good education…(they just know it all!!) ?

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You'd think tickingbird

you can keep this simple. yes, you should be able to get your money back. (this happened to me when my son was 6 - the little squirt took a picture of my credit card. ) So, here is what I did and my son is now 21 and very very honest. I simply asked him if he did that. I asked him why he did it. I listened. Then I gave a good lesson about trust. I essentially told him families need to trust each other and how would it be if he couldnt trust his gran. What if he found out I took some money out of his own pocket without him knowing, and he found out it was me? How would he feel? Like he couldn't trust his gran, right? What a life not being able to trust your own family. It worked very well. Also, if I found he had picked up something off the street, so we returned it to where it was. You have great opportunities to teach him some valuable lessons. And you are right. They don'thave to involve ripping him a new one. All children do things like this. How we address it is important. Teaching honor is very important. Good luck

Oh dear! Are you sure your grandson did not know he was racking up bills?
Kids are very savvy these days, yes even 9 year olds!!
You should have put parental controls on and even asked his parents to use their cards instead of yours, I'm sure they're probably a lot more tech savvy than you are!
Everyone is saying not to blame the child, but surely he's partly responsible after Shinamae spoke to him prior to the debts occurring, and he would have then known not to click to get things until he knew if they were costing real money!!
I think he 'MAY' have thought, 'Meh! Granny won't find out until much later'!
Of course, I could be wrong, but please do not assume the child is totally innocent in this one, especially as they use computers all the time - paper is the thing to be doodled on these days, remember!!

The issue was resolved the day after the thread was posted.