"It's not me - you mumble!" ?

Baggs

Deafness and the development of dementia are linked apparently. Might be worth telling some of these stubborn eejits to get their hearing aids in.

"There is a strong link between hearing loss and dementia. According to one study, people with mild hearing loss are two times as likely to develop dementia, and this increases to three times for those with moderate hearing loss (Lin et al 2011).

Hearing loss - Dementia and sensory loss - SCIE - Social ...https://www.scie.org.uk › dementia › living-with-dementia"

Terrific, something else to worry about.

Men!

Bella We are lucky to still have them to complain about. It was touch and go with mine for a while but I do appreciate that I'm lucky to have him.

Deafness and the development of dementia are linked apparently. Might be worth telling some of these stubborn eejits to get their hearing aids in.

"There is a strong link between hearing loss and dementia. According to one study, people with mild hearing loss are two times as likely to develop dementia, and this increases to three times for those with moderate hearing loss (Lin et al 2011).

Hearing loss - Dementia and sensory loss - SCIE - Social ...https://www.scie.org.uk › dementia › living-with-dementia"

Oh my goodness I could have written these posts.

My DH says I mumble. I have to repeat everything I say to him and it drives me to distraction.

The TV has to be turned up so high all the time.

I love him to pieces but he absolutely refuses to have his hearing checked because he doesn't want to wear hearing aids.

Good luck everyone !!!!!!!

ixion

Point very much taken, Bellasnana?

Me too, Bella. I know I would miss him terribly, but his poor hearing can actually be dangerous.
When I had my first heart attack, DH wasted so much time mishearing what the 111 handler was saying, that she insisted he hand the phone over to me. He should have called 999 in the first place.
Paramedics were sent straight away, but he never learned anything from that.

When I had a second heart attack, I called the ambulance myself, he was asleep and didn't hear me struggling, despite me trying to waken him, I was taking no chances that time.
So it's not all amusing anecdotes.

SILto DH. Do you want some oak logs?

DH Why would I want old clocks ?

I rest my case

I now wear hearing aids and coincidentally at the same time everyone started speaking clearly and stopped mumblin!!. My funniest mis- heard occasion was at a Slimming World Class where everyone was sharing their difficulties in losing weight. One young lady said she has recently started with IVF and following the SW Food Plan was hard. Then another woman said she was having difficulties because of IVF. I turned to my friend who was sat next to me and sad "For God's sake , does no one have babies the natural way now?" My friend said "What do you mean?" Apparently these ladies had IBS. We laughed so much the 2 of us had to leave the class and were still laughing all the way home.

Not him, me, my ears need de waxing every year, MrJ notices when I do start to mumble, turn the TV up a notch etc.

I think that lots of men , my DH included can hear perfectly well but need to polish up their listening skills.

Point very much taken, Bellasnana?

My late DH accused me of mumbling. He had hearing loss caused by the jet engines when he was cabin crew for BEA back in the early 70’s and hearing aids were not an option for him.
I so wish he was still here accusing me of mumbling. Seven years without him and I miss him terribly.?

OH Yes! I had a Husband like that. He insisted that everyone was whispering and we had turned down the sound on the telephone and TV. In particular he could not, or would not hear me when I tried to tell him he was becoming deaf, like his Father before him. It took our DDs to convince him to go for a hearing test, which led to him having Hearing Aids, This led to another tiring saga when the Aids were missing, lost, found, broken, repaired,lost again.

I was not terribly sympathetic but got my comeuppance when the DDs and DGC started to mumble especially on the phone. Yep. I'm now the annoying deaf one who spends half her life misplacing her hearing aids and the other half trying to find them.

My friends husband was blue lighted into hospital last week , she was frantically ringing his phone , it was turned off , then she spotted his hearing aids beside the bed
The ward eventually rang her and after reassuring her that oh had improved , the nurse asked if oh was safe to leave on his own , could he get to the bathroom by himself … turned out they thought he had dementia as his answers to everything were strange !
So that’s one good reason to make them get and WEAR hearing aids

The mis-hearing can be funny.
I should write them down.
One I can remember…..

Me: Tell Dan that Poppy’s crying.

dh: Dan, the sausages are frying.

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I could have written that, it took five years before he would get a hearing test. He does wear the aids when anyone is around, often forgets when it is just us. The aids help, but I am still repeating most things.

I have seen criticism on here of people who start sentences with 'So,' but I have to, so that he realises I have started speaking, and can then start listening, always misses the first word!!

I can’t hear you when you mumble

I can’t hear you unless you are in the same room as me (well he used to)

I can’t hear you because I’m thinking about something else.

I give up. One day I’ll just stop speaking to him altogether - see if that works. Because it isn’t him, it’s me.

Subtitles are the answer

Might be helpful Kate1949 for me to keep up with the dialogue but for him, it would just mean a whole new hell about finding the right glasses.

And I do appreciate all his good points and I am, of course, completely perfect and not in the slightest bit annoying.

Mine does it too and I have to repeat myself at least twice. ? Unfortunately he fills in the gaps when he hasn’t heard which leads to even more problems. He does actually wear one hearing aid. The TV is so loud as well.

But, I love him dearly so I just live with it now. ?

Oh me also Kate1949

I realise I can be extremely annoying too.

Husbands can be frustrating but I guess we all love the cantankerous old so and sos ❤️

Oh yes another DH here who’s the same ?
he also says that too Kate1949 it’s what?

If he’s been anywhere on his own and comes back and relays what he’s been told I often wonder if he’s heard correctly.

Subtitles are the answer Lyndylou

Oh me too. I am sure my OH just has a default answer of "Sorry what did you say" to everything I say to him. He does have some hearing issues from an old accident but refuses to have any check up or hearing aid. I also have the unwanted role of relating what has just been said on the TV so I end up missing the next bit of dialogue.