"It's not me - you mumble!" ?

I do wonder sometimes?

I could have written any one of these posts but would willingly put up with deafening TV and talking at cross purposes to have him back with me.
Apparently I was a terrible mumbler and always waited until he had his back to me before speaking to him.

DMIL had another way of putting it, to everyone, very loudly and slowly, as if we were all the ones with the hearing difficulties.

You should en-un-ci-ate properly.

OOOh nice one Visgirl,i shall use that one if you don`t mind.
Yes, i too have a Dh that can`t hear me and asks constantly what i said,and also tells me to stop mumbling.
And yet if i say what do you fancy tonight,he grins and says oooh missus, i said i meant for dinner .
Back to being as and when it suits deaf.

SuzieHi my husband is like this with spicy food. I've bought a jar of chilli flakes so he can add extra to his plate.
He's a keen cook but everything is so hot I can barely eat it. Last week we had chilli, curry and jambalaya. He thought they tasted fine and was hurt I didn't enjoy them.
I don't want to go down the separate meals route, but...

As for hearing issues, after many years of denial he finally went, got the NHS hearing aids, then heard about private Bluetooth hearing aids and got them.
So now half the time he still can't hear me because he's tuned in and listening to some sports match through them ?

I am slightly hard of hearing but it's not time for digital help yet. My husband is having big problems never hearing what's being said to him therefore making more mistakes. But he will not under any circumstances have his ears tested. Everything in the house is on the highest volume it's drives me mad.
He will admit to other people that he can't hear properly but when I mention it I am a nag I just give up!

After all my criticisms, am about the queue of complainers.
Have had hearing aids for nearly ten years. DW used to work with the hearing impaired.
Can hear others quite easily.
A neighbour complained that she mumbled. I am wrong to talk whilst in another room, cannot be heard ("Nothing wrong with my hearing") but am expected to hear when she is in another room or when facing away.
There ain't no justice

With us, it's me who has the hearing problem. though he's starting to say 'What?' when I speak to him.
I have hearing aids now but I HATE them. And rarely wear them. Mainly because theyre fiddly to insert, often fall out, and usually irritate the inside of my ears. Still got shingles there.
They do help though.
Baggs i was going to add the connection with dementia - deafness cuts you off from what's going on around you.

We are clearly not alone!

It is a universal club.

Can anyone help me distinguish between whether my DH is like yours, or sufferering partial memory loss, or like so many men, just not bothering to listen to his wife - the one writing this?

DH can hear the television when it is turned down to a level I find difficult to hear, which makes me feel I must be the one with the hearing loss, but GP says no.
However, I tell DH something, he replies suitably and later the same day, or the following one asks me about thatever it was we discussed previously!

So whose hearing is defective here?

When I stay with my family, they complain that I turn the TV up far too high. I keep 'meaning to' have my hearing tested because it's embarrassing to have to ask my soft-spoken friends to repeat themselves. At least in my own house, I can turn up the volume as high as I like!

Sometimes, I think it's just laziness.
I find that if I feign a rather quizzical look, wait a second and am not tempted to repeat myself, the (required) response is generally forthcoming after all.

Please can I join the party, doesn't hear me, has had the hearing tests and has the hearing aids. Just doesn't use them.

Same with his sleep apnia. he has the equipment, can sleep wearing it, but doesn't use it then sleeps all day in the LR and then wonders why he hardly sees me because I have better things to do than keep a sleeping man company for hours on end.

My DH is just the same,our kitchen and dining room is on a 2step lower level.
I can shout and shout to tell him dinner is ready with no response.Frustrating to say the least I jokingly tell him all the neighbours can here before he does.He says I mumble.
Selective or what ? Can relay messages with times,dates etc and he denies all knowledge of being told but his sporting arrangements now there lies a different tale.

I've taken to phoning him rather than shouting from one room to another.

And I send texts of dates and times etc, so then he can't say I didn't tell him, when what he means is he didn't hear me.

I phone when dinner’s ready!