"It's not me - you mumble!" ?

I could have written that, it took five years before he would get a hearing test. He does wear the aids when anyone is around, often forgets when it is just us. The aids help, but I am still repeating most things.

I have seen criticism on here of people who start sentences with 'So,' but I have to, so that he realises I have started speaking, and can then start listening, always misses the first word!!

The mis-hearing can be funny.
I should write them down.
One I can remember…..

Me: Tell Dan that Poppy’s crying.

dh: Dan, the sausages are frying.

??

My friends husband was blue lighted into hospital last week , she was frantically ringing his phone , it was turned off , then she spotted his hearing aids beside the bed
The ward eventually rang her and after reassuring her that oh had improved , the nurse asked if oh was safe to leave on his own , could he get to the bathroom by himself … turned out they thought he had dementia as his answers to everything were strange !
So that’s one good reason to make them get and WEAR hearing aids

OH Yes! I had a Husband like that. He insisted that everyone was whispering and we had turned down the sound on the telephone and TV. In particular he could not, or would not hear me when I tried to tell him he was becoming deaf, like his Father before him. It took our DDs to convince him to go for a hearing test, which led to him having Hearing Aids, This led to another tiring saga when the Aids were missing, lost, found, broken, repaired,lost again.

I was not terribly sympathetic but got my comeuppance when the DDs and DGC started to mumble especially on the phone. Yep. I'm now the annoying deaf one who spends half her life misplacing her hearing aids and the other half trying to find them.

My late DH accused me of mumbling. He had hearing loss caused by the jet engines when he was cabin crew for BEA back in the early 70’s and hearing aids were not an option for him.
I so wish he was still here accusing me of mumbling. Seven years without him and I miss him terribly.?

Point very much taken, Bellasnana?

I think that lots of men , my DH included can hear perfectly well but need to polish up their listening skills.

Not him, me, my ears need de waxing every year, MrJ notices when I do start to mumble, turn the TV up a notch etc.

I now wear hearing aids and coincidentally at the same time everyone started speaking clearly and stopped mumblin!!. My funniest mis- heard occasion was at a Slimming World Class where everyone was sharing their difficulties in losing weight. One young lady said she has recently started with IVF and following the SW Food Plan was hard. Then another woman said she was having difficulties because of IVF. I turned to my friend who was sat next to me and sad "For God's sake , does no one have babies the natural way now?" My friend said "What do you mean?" Apparently these ladies had IBS. We laughed so much the 2 of us had to leave the class and were still laughing all the way home.

SILto DH. Do you want some oak logs?

DH Why would I want old clocks ?

I rest my case

ixion

Point very much taken, Bellasnana?

Me too, Bella. I know I would miss him terribly, but his poor hearing can actually be dangerous.
When I had my first heart attack, DH wasted so much time mishearing what the 111 handler was saying, that she insisted he hand the phone over to me. He should have called 999 in the first place.
Paramedics were sent straight away, but he never learned anything from that.

When I had a second heart attack, I called the ambulance myself, he was asleep and didn't hear me struggling, despite me trying to waken him, I was taking no chances that time.
So it's not all amusing anecdotes.

Oh my goodness I could have written these posts.

My DH says I mumble. I have to repeat everything I say to him and it drives me to distraction.

The TV has to be turned up so high all the time.

I love him to pieces but he absolutely refuses to have his hearing checked because he doesn't want to wear hearing aids.

Good luck everyone !!!!!!!

Deafness and the development of dementia are linked apparently. Might be worth telling some of these stubborn eejits to get their hearing aids in.

"There is a strong link between hearing loss and dementia. According to one study, people with mild hearing loss are two times as likely to develop dementia, and this increases to three times for those with moderate hearing loss (Lin et al 2011).

Hearing loss - Dementia and sensory loss - SCIE - Social ...https://www.scie.org.uk › dementia › living-with-dementia"

Bella We are lucky to still have them to complain about. It was touch and go with mine for a while but I do appreciate that I'm lucky to have him.

Men!

Baggs

Deafness and the development of dementia are linked apparently. Might be worth telling some of these stubborn eejits to get their hearing aids in.

"There is a strong link between hearing loss and dementia. According to one study, people with mild hearing loss are two times as likely to develop dementia, and this increases to three times for those with moderate hearing loss (Lin et al 2011).

Hearing loss - Dementia and sensory loss - SCIE - Social ...https://www.scie.org.uk › dementia › living-with-dementia"

Terrific, something else to worry about.

My husband was the same and he ended up with two hearing aids. Niw I’ve got a perforated ear drum and can’t hear at all with one ear I’m struggling and apparently I’m on the list for ENT ?

Germanshepherdsmum

My husband is exactly the same. It’s always me mumbling, or he wasn’t listening because he was doing something else…?

My is the same.. But it also works to my advantage sometime.. When I say I did tell you.. He has no idea if I did.. I didn't

My friend has had a couple of operations on her voice box and was told not to shout. She explained that would be impossible as she always has to repeat things to her DH. She was told to say whatever once and not repeat herself, as he would eventually learn to pick out the keywords, then fill in the rest.
Sadly, reader, it didn’t work, which is why she had to have the operation done twice.

Lord yes, this is also my life.

The constant repetition, the interpreting others for him, the explaining the TV dialogue…

I would possibly mind less if there wasn’t a constant string of excuses - I can’t hear you because the kettle’s on, I could hear her, but wasn’t sure what she meant, I can hear the TV, but British accents are odd, etc etc etc - while his hearing aids rot in a drawer.

I’ve taken to snapping ‘you can’t hear me because you’re deaf’ at regular intervals. It’s had zero effect, but it makes me feel better.

I solved the problem by saying I thought I needed a hearing aid so why don’t we go and be tested. We were and he needed it more than me but now we both have them. Wow the th is softer and he can hear me when I speak!

I know this will sound horrid to those of us who genuinely have hearing loss but it can be used to ones advantage. Periodically I am selectively deaf and short sighted when something happens that I dont want to know about. Or very absent minded and scatty. Like my whingy NDN trying to attract my attention.

Or someone at the door I dont want to bother with:-

Me: I dont have my hearing aid in. I dont buy at the door.

Caller: Im not selling ......

Me: Ive just told you I dont buy at the door. Go away!

Sounds like a lot of us have husbands who can’t hear properly! Same story here… tv, or radio, too loud and constantly telling me I’m mumbling!
Admits he can’t hear birdsong or other background noises though.
He won’t go for a hearing test yet, but has agreed to go for “ear wax” removal this week. Not convinced it will improve matters!
Still step one……
Anyone else notice other half losing sense of taste too? Mine now piles on sauce, chilli, condiments…He can’t taste subtle flavours at all. Won’t admit to that either!

My DH has been very ‘hard of hearing’ for years, doesn’t need the tv turned up, but struggles in conversation, especially in groups. Very touchy if it was mentioned though.

Finally, a few weeks ago, managed to get him to go for a hearing test. Didn’t want me to go in with him, but the audiologist invited me in as well. I could hear some of the machine’s bleeps and it wasn’t me being tested! ( He couldn’t).

End result, he definitely needs hearing aids, significant loss in one ear, and also booked to see an ENT consultant when an appointment comes up. Waiting to have wax removed, then his aids will be fitted.

He was quite subdued on hearing all this. But maybe he will realise how much he has been missing over the years. As others have said, mis-hearing, answering questions with totally wrong replies, interrupting because he doesn’t realise others are still talking…..

My husband still hears everything but unfortunately it goes in one ear and out….somewhere else!!