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"It's not me - you mumble!" ?

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Kate1949 Sat 21-May-22 18:08:29

Sometimes it it comical though. When he hasn't heard me he always says 'It's what?'
Me: 'Its raining'. Him: 'It's what?'
Me: 'Mrs Jones down the road has died.' Him: 'It's what?'
Me: 'What time would you like to go shopping?' Him: 'It's what?'
Aaaaargh. grin

Gingster Sat 21-May-22 18:08:00

Oh my goodness!
Same here!
After a couple of years of gradual hearing loss, Dh eventually had his hearing tested. Then and there he was fitted with hearing aids. Brilliant service on the NHS.
Does he wear them? Does he hell. ?.

Germanshepherdsmum Sat 21-May-22 18:04:50

My husband is exactly the same. It’s always me mumbling, or he wasn’t listening because he was doing something else…?

Marydoll Sat 21-May-22 18:01:47

My daughter and son in law have just moved in with us, until the can get into their new house.
I am hoping that they will see exactly, what I have been complaining about.

Bellanonna Sat 21-May-22 17:58:42

Oh, I know, Kate …..

Kate1949 Sat 21-May-22 17:55:44

Yes it is Bella. He's a lovely man but sometimes......

GrannyGravy13 Sat 21-May-22 17:53:20

My dearest one, refuses to get a hearing aid. I so wish he would.

Bellanonna Sat 21-May-22 17:51:03

Oh Lord, Kate, that must be so frustrating. At least my OH has the excuse of not using his, but it’s so tiring for us isn’t it!?

Kate1949 Sat 21-May-22 17:45:42

My DH uses me as a kind of interpreter. When we are with people he constantly looks at me to repeat what they have said. He gets the wrong end of the stick sometimes and chips in to a conversation which has nothing to do with what is being spoken about. He sends our granddaughter into fits of giggles with his mis-hearing.
I do feel for him but it is very tiring as you say ixion. And that's with hearing aids.

GrannyGravy13 Sat 21-May-22 17:44:16

Oh dear I could have written your post Marydoll and the others

I have given up, I say very little to DH as I am utterly fed up of repeating myself…

Bellanonna Sat 21-May-22 17:41:40

I always have to repeat myself because apparently I mumble and am not at all clear. Meanwhile the hearing aids are in the sock drawer, or somewhere.

Marydoll Sat 21-May-22 17:40:34

Snap, exactly the same scenario in our home..

About four years ago my DIL tested DH's hearing and told him, that he had slight hearing loss. He took it as meaning his hearing was fine and has continued to be fine, ever since. It certainly is not, but he refuses to go for a test!

I am driven to distraction by the chaos, he is causing, by mishearing and getting things wrong, including buying a new car!!! I was standing behind him, warning the salesperson, that he hadn't heard a single word of what she said.
It's everyone else, who is mumbling!!! Don't even mention the volume on the TV. It is deafening. ?

lixy Sat 21-May-22 17:37:47

Total sympathy from here ixion.

He was a bit perplexed the other day when I was listening to the baby blue tits tweeting away in the birdbox - he couldn't hear them at all. But then I am able to hear higher pitches than he is because 'women can' apparently!
No solutions to offer, sorry, but will be watching the thread with great interest.

Wheniwasyourage Sat 21-May-22 17:37:16

Oh yes!! Eventually he spent some time with some of the family and realised that he couldn't hear them either, went to get his hearing tested and got hearing aids. It wan't me mumbling after all!!

Good luck. It may take some time, but it's worth it in the end. grin

Kate1949 Sat 21-May-22 17:37:05

Yes!! Constantly. Everything I say to him I have to repeat. 'Yes but you mumble he says'. I don't. He has hearing aids too.

ixion Sat 21-May-22 17:31:58

Has anyone had this issue with husbands who clearly aren't hearing you?
How did you tackle it? It's really very tiring.

And yes, everyone else understands me loud and clear?