Should men have their own “Gramps Net” ?

Sounds a good idea, although open to both sexes, Gransnet seems predominantly female, which can put a chap off!
I’m not sure men are so interested in the minutiae of everyday life (which I so enjoy), but I may be wrong (and sexist…)

No reason why not, but I think this type of forum is much more a female thing,

Women on the whole ‘chat’ a lot more than men.

When I tell my DH some of the things that are discussed on GN, often the silly gossipy things, he thinks we are mad!

But as I say, that’s the difference between the sexes, IMHO.

Sago
I realise there could be many men on here that we assume to be women but would you post more freely or discuss more intimate matters if this were a female forum only?

No. It's an open forum so absolutely anyone can read what we post anyway, so it wouldn't change what I post about in the slightest.

Perhaps we should ask the chaps why they are here, and not on a general, say, over 50s type, site?

GN is for anyone. The chances of having a separate Gramps net I think is zero. Pretty sure GN won't be around that much longer either.

I don’t have a problem with men on this site there doesn’t seem to be many on here anyway.
I think some men might find it easier to talk to women than men especially about problems. I think it’s a macho thing that they don’t open up about problems. My friend managed a surgery and said men usually see doctors about health issues when it’s too late. I find that very sad when needing advice they are too worried to share their problems.

Problem is, there’s no way of 100% knowing who’s a man or who’s a woman?
Mick could be a woman pretending to be a man for all we know, ( I’m sure he isn’t but anything is possible on the internet! )
When I was younger I spent a lot more time on mumsnet & there were a few men on there then - most were great tbh. But every now & then you got a thread like this, many women like to have their ‘own space’ but it’s impossible on the internet. Plus these forums, whilst predominantly aimed at mums & grandmothers - are open to men too.

& single women & women who do not have GC.

No; why be exclusive?

Having said that I don't enter the Grandad's Shed forum. Maybe there could be a Grandma's conservatory forum? Though how anyone would know who anyone else is is beyond my tech skills.

No, I don’t think it’s necessary. I don’t care if I’m talking to men or women on here, and I wouldn’t post anything intimate on any online forum. I think if anybody posts something which others find offensive they get jumped on anyway. I do think men tend to be more specific in their interests though, so they are more likely to be on model railways, golf, DIY or whatever sites rather than general chat sites.

I won't be telling my DH if so.
He will be getting his spread sheets out and running the boys' threads like a machine. He doesn't do frivolous chat, that's why I enjoy it on GN.
But he is very much a gentleman at ❤.

I don’t mind there being men on GN because I don’t post about ‘intimate issues’, though of course GN can be read by anyone, member or not. I sometimes wonder if some posters realise that. What I very much dislike, though, is a man trying to take control of a predominantly female space and dictate what women may say there because his presence makes it ‘mixed company’. In contrast, Mick who opens the Good Morning is indeed a real gentleman.

I feel it is most unusual for a man to join a predominantly female space.
If for example my husband said he wanted to become part of the GN community I would be very against him joining . .

Oh dear.
I am quite sure men enjoy forums mainly for men, or indulge in their gossip at the pub, the sports club or whilst pursuing their hobbies.
Most men are not remotely interested in book groups, for example; the two I knew spent the two years of their membership showing off their supposedly superior intellect and attempting to derail it. No idea why.

GagaJo What makes you think Gransnet won’t be around for much longer?
I, for one, hope it continues as I so enjoy —wasting time— reading the various topics and their threads.

As women we had to fight for equality . So why shouldn't men be on GN . I know several who are and they are a mind of information on various threads.

Some woman on here aren't grans would you say they shouldn't be here?

I thought GN included all with no discrimination.

There is enough discrimination in this world without it being on GN as well.

I've no problem with Gransnet being for men as well as women. The threads I engage on are usually the more factual ones (eg gardening) where it makes no difference who the poster is.

No, they should join GN if they wish, and stay away if they don't want to join.

Gransnet is no different from the Real World. People are people, whether they are male or female, and some are interested in discussing one subject, some another. A man's viewpoint may be different from a woman's, which is a good thing. There have been valuable contributions from male posters.

Men and women are equally capable of joining a thread or ignoring it, and can equally be reported and banned if they stray into unacceptable posts.

I don't feel any problem with men on GN. I thought it was for all grandparents. And maybe a male point of view sometimes is good for the site.
I fervently hope Gransnet continues. Why would it not?
I'm puzzled by that.

No problem with men on here, the men I know well have wide ranging conversations not restricted to so called ‘male subjects’. Our last pub visit at the weekend, where I sat with three men the subjects ranged from air fryers to the best way of cutting fingernails.

Men are just people, too. If they do make sexist comments, they can bear the brunt of us. We're not shrinking violets.

As someone else said, we have no idea of anyone's gender on here. It doesn't matter if sex/gender don't align. All we see are typed words, so in some ways, it's ideal. Take people at face value.

No problem with men on here. But I too suspect GN days are numbered.
Anyone remember when there used to be lots of free books and competitions? The fact that they have gone and threads are dwindling indicates something.

Men generally have a hard time on Gransnet because any controversy results in being ganged up on. So they just give up, its easy to “get on” if you agree with the female point of view, which is always going to predominate here.

Another reason is that men don’t join forums unless its to discuss things like sport, cars or any other hobby or activity, they don’t just chat about random stuff. Nor do they discuss relationships (beyond complaining) with each other, that’s just not done.

I don't see the point in even thinking about it, as we have no idea who anyone is on here, and no way of preventing men from joining if they want to.

What I would like to see is a rule that stops people from announcing that they are men. Their sex should make no difference to how they are treated, and there is no reason I can think of why it matters.

I have been in a few 'real life' groups which have started as all women, and when a man joins the dynamic shifts. Obviously that is mostly to do with personality - sometimes the man assumes that he should dominate - but more often it is that some women automatically defer to him, or want to protect the male ego. Not all in either case, but enough to make a difference. It happens across age groups - I've seen it happen in everything from knitting groups with largely older people, to student groups where the average age is 20.

We have a great opportunity online to just take people as we find them. Unlike in face to face situations, we don't know if someone is beautiful, we can't hear their accent or see whether they are wearing expensive clothes, how old they are, what they do/did for a living or if they are male or female. People can tell us these things, but what they say may or may not be true, and IMO none of it should matter. The Internet has many problems, but one of the many good things about it is that it is largely democratic.

So in short, I don't care if men join and it wouldn't matter if I did, but please let's not make a big deal about it or give them special status if they do join in?

No. We are all so diverse, bring to GN a wide range of varying experiences and opinions. It’s a mix which I value.